I’m starting hrt next week but....

[Chris39]

I'm starting hrt next week and the closer it gets the more afraid I get .im afraid that I'm going to be labeled a freak or weird o .i don't think I will ever truly pass as a women because I'm 6.2weigh 235 lbs an I'm very muscular I've been a body builder my whole life .I think it was and is my way of copeing but I truly want this an know I will have to hide it but hopefully not for ever

[Cheyanne]

I feel like that's the same thing we all fight with at the beginning of our transition. The important stuff to know in my opinion are:

1. Go at your own pace. Dont feel pressured to leap in, unless you are used to that method.

2. Transitioning, at an older age, is a second puberty. We experience changes in our bodies and deal with new insecurities. These are all things that fade with time.

3. After starting that journey, things may start poorly, but they get better. It may start slow at first but will gain momentum later. Make sure to surround yourself with good people. It helps.

The last thing I have to say is that I too used to do a lot of body building and bulked up, I'm 6'3" too. I even got the "oh you wont make a pretty women", bit. That said I think Ive turned out alright. I can send you before and after pictures if you're interested. Tall girls are exotic and sexy btw. Don't let the social norm tell you otherwise. You got this girl.

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[KathyLauren]

Chris, congratulations on starting your transition next week.  That is exciting!

Relax, take a deep breath, let it out slowly.  You have got this!  Like @Cheyanne said, you can go at your own speed, and transition as much or as little as you want.  It is all about meeting your needs.

Fear is normal, and we have all been there.  We all doubted whether we would pass.  The only way past a fear is forward.  Most of us end up looking much better that we had feared initially.  Check out the Before and After thread for many examples.

[anna.changing]

Hi Chris

Stay strong and positive.

I have started and stopped a few times, but I still know it's the right journey for me, and the only one that feels deeply and truely authentic.

Good luck with your new start next week

Hugs
Anna

[Linde]

Chris, just do it!
I am 6" and weigh a little less than 200 lb, and most of it seems to be muscle.  But I am trying to loose 20 lbs, to become that dainty (kind of   ) tall lady.  I like what I am experiencing, and try to make the best out of it!  I see it as a version of an adventure, and am excited when I slightly, and hardly visible changes happening to me!
It seems to be a long and slow process, but the heck, puberty was/is a long and slow process!

Just go for it, do it for yourself, not for others!
Hugs
Linde

[Lacy]

Another taller girl here. I am 5' 11" and 185 lbs. I am doing cardio and non weight exercises to lower that number. My goal is about 160.
I work with a couple cis women who are just as tall as me. It actually is kind of nice, because I can see what works for taller women.

It sounds like you stay in shape. Remember that muscle weighs more than fat. As HRT starts working, your will lose some muscle mass and new fat should accumulate in a more feminine pattern.
Do what you feel comfortable with. Not all of us will pass, but HRT can be a major help dealing with the dysphoria.

Lacy