Quote from: Kylo on December 27, 2018, 04:57:19 AM
When I first mentioned transition to my father one of the first things he said was to ask if I was attracted to women. As if it was the obvious thing to assume. Other people have assumed the same as well - apparently a transman is commonly expected to be a straight man, like most of the rest.
Interesting.
I'm - practically speaking - attracted to men, so I suppose that makes me unusual, even though technically I would be bisexual in terms of what potentially is sexually attractive. It's curious how perceptions of trans people's attraction already exists out there even where people know next to nothing about the condition. If they accept you as the gender you say, then the general idea is that you're going to act and behave like the average member of that gender. I found this a bit weird, since the implication would then be that I spent 16 years in long-term relationships with people I'm not attracted to... for some reason. They seemed to forget all about that.
As another FTM man, I too find it weird that it is assumed that I'd "suddenly like women" by cis people.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
I am in a long-term relationship with my (possibly never transitioning FTM) male partner, and have been for over four years now. Even though I find female bodies aesthetically pleasing at times to look at, it is cis males that I have always been sexually attracted to. Actually, it took me months to get used to the man that I love having a female body, and during that time, our intimacy was almost at a standstill. It was an honest case of "Its me, not you."
We both still find men sexually attractive to look at, but I now am also more aware of exactly
why a female body would be also seen as attractive, something I wasn't really aware of until I started transitioning.
Unusual for me, I now can see the beauty in "fluffy" female bodies, something I also discovered after transitioning. This is still something I am still thinking about, but the roundness of the female form, accentuated by extra pounds makes it even more pleasing in my eyes. This is something that I never understood before transitioning.
Ryuichi