Affirming signs that you pass

[randim]

I hope you gave generously for this?

Alas, no. I had been hit on a bunch and was starting to feel like a sucker. And between you and me, I, I, I'm not sure he was sincere. Timing is everything I guess.

[IAmM]

I love it! This should be semi permanent like some of the other threads, I could read these all day.

It's been a long time and at times I forget what it was like. They all gave me a really big smile.

I think a big thing for me was my ID, that blank stare when you hand them your old ID and they look at you with a blank expression. Like okay, who is he and why should I care? I don't think about it much anymore and maybe I should. It makes The whole world better for a while doesn't it?

Two things that happened to me this week.
My McDonald's has construction going on right now so no drive-through, I was walking in to get coffee the other day and this guy was coming out. He was so overloaded that he looked like he would drop something at any moment. Struggles through the inner door with a full drink tray and two giant bags of food and I thought that I would hold the outer door for him. He would have none of that, smiles and says that he is fine, go ahead as he is holding the inner door open for me while juggling his stuff. I was like, Really? Because it looks like you are the one in need of help. He insisted and I felt kinda bad but I get tired of arguing with guys over things like that. Like the other thing that happened. At lunch at a slightly upscale buffet and I was going for some water before I filled up my plate with fruit. Dessert okay, I can eat like a normal person. This guy is just in front of me and I settle in to wait. He is not even looking at the beverages but staring at me, Do you know what you want? Yes, just a glass of water. Him, Go ahead. Me, It's okay, I don't mind. Him, Really, I insist. I feel bad like always even though I have given up on trying change their minds. As I am getting my water I say thank you and he has the most leering grin when he says, The pleasure was all mine, you can believe that. Yeah, it gets a little creepy sometimes, still makes me feel like I am floating though. 

I have had all the conversations with women, girls my age talk more about menopause though and grandchildren. Love the X-ray tech, Are you pregnant? Yeah, pretty sure that I am not. You are not too old. Of course trans people are the most affirming, Hi. I don't mean to offend you or anything but this is a transgender picnic, it is okay that you are not. Are you with someone? There is another group on the other side of the playground maybe you are looking for them? That made me smile for days, mad me feel bad a bit too, they never let me in and kept me on the edge of the whole event.

I think this is a great thread! Keep it up, I enjoy hearing them all.

[pamelatransuk]

That is great. Have you done voice training or it just happened?

It just happened and I wasn't consciously trying either!

Hugs

Pamela

[Andie1963]

It just happened and I wasn't consciously trying either!

Hugs

Pamela

I'm hoping that I have the same happen with me!


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[Linde]

It just happened and I wasn't consciously trying either!

Hugs

Pamela

I am similar.  I have a natural rather high pitch voice (female type voice box), and my only male give away is the speech pattern and the way I am using my voice.  If i watch that a little, or if I talk with females only for a while, I am fully in female mode, and can talk like this for the entire day!

[JenSCDC]

Having men hold doors for me is a definite sign.

Another big one is other woman engaging in small talk with me in situations such as riding an elevator- that never happening when I was a guy.

The absolute biggest, however, is when a guy smiles at me....

[ChrissyRyan]

"Whoa!  You are going into the men's room by mistake."

[Michelle_P]

Laurie and I were touring a huge aviation museum last week.  There area number of docents hanging around, veterans with an aviation background, who can answer questions about the exhibits.  One of them decided to us up for several minutes, to the point where he was offering to sneak me past the glass to the inside of the exhibit so I could get a better picture!

I have a feeling we were passing, at least with these gentlemen!

[Victoria L.]

Another one is if women smile at you as you pass by. It's the woman to woman equivalent to the "guy nod."

I'm afraid I don't see it that way. I've had women do it to me all of my life. I've never figured out why they're doing that, but I'm pretty sure that most of them are not reading me as a woman when they do it.

Anyway, for a story from me:

(I am not really transitioning (and feeling more like I need to, though) and am very much only quasi-presenting feminine. By that I mean, I have longer hair (but not properly styled), dress in women's clothes (but they're just the masculine equivalents of what I was wearing before), and try my hardest to shave my face. I "ma'am...sir" a lot, but rarely a "ma'am" with no change. It is comforting that I'm at least confusing people with the bare minimum, though. It gives me some hope that maybe there is hope for me passing with real effort.)

Last year I was shopping at Walmart. I was with another trans friend who was there helping me shop for some clothes I needed (yes, women's clothes, but that's an aside in the end). It was a winter day so I was dressed the happiest for me (meaning masculine features are harder to see)... My small women's peacoat with skinny jeans. When we went up to the dressing rooms there were attendants.

My friend was waiting outside and one of them asked her if she needed anything. She's like "No, I'm waiting for a friend in the dressing room". I can't remember exactly how this went down, but something they said to her in regards to me pronouned me properly.

I wish I could remember what exactly it was, but I can't piece together what kind of interaction would have been had. I was just told about it after the fact by my friend.

[NatalieRene]

I am similar.  I have a natural rather high pitch voice (female type voice box), and my only male give away is the speech pattern and the way I am using my voice.  If i watch that a little, or if I talk with females only for a while, I am fully in female mode, and can talk like this for the entire day!

That's muscle memory. Who here wants to just hop in the discord voice chat. It will be fun?

[Linde]

That's muscle memory. Who here wants to just hop in the discord voice chat. It will be fun?

It looks as if our Skype training might not materialize.  I don't know what quality the dsicord chat is?

[NatalieRene]

It looks as if our Sype training might not materialize.  I don't know what quality the dsicord chat is?

I don't know but if people hop in we can always find out.

[krobinson103]

Discord chat works well.

[Linde]

Are we ready to do it?

[NatalieRene]

Are we ready to do it?

I'm ready.

[Northern Star Girl]

The most affirming sign that I passed was long after I relocated to my new town as a full-time woman to start my own business....  I had been passing unquestionably for well over a year so that was certainly affirming....
...BUT
the most affirming sign was when I attracted several male suitors that had no idea about my secret.  After a few dates and outings with them and they started to get serious I finally felt obligated to tell them.   Those very first male suitors thought I was joking and laughed it off.  Shortly thereafter I came out publicly to the entire town with only very few people expressing their non-acceptance.
Now, as a woman, I belong to a Gym-Gals group, a mostly female Book Club, invited to baby showers and wedding showers, etc.
YES indeed....... very affirming.

Danielle 

[Andie1963]

The most affirming sign that I passed was long after I relocated to my new town as a full-time woman to start my own business....  I had been passing unquestionably for well over a year so that was certainly affirming....
...BUT
the most affirming sign was when I attracted several male suitors that had no idea about my secret.  After a few dates and outings with them and they started to get serious I finally felt obligated to tell them.   Those very first male suitors thought I was joking and laughed it off.  Shortly thereafter I came out publicly to the entire town with only very few people expressing their non-acceptance.
Now, as a woman, I belong to a Gym-Gals group, a mostly female Book Club, invited to baby showers and wedding showers, etc.
YES indeed....... very affirming.

Danielle

I am so happy for you and I hope that I have a beautiful life such as yours,


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[NatalieRene]

The most affirming sign that I passed was long after I relocated to my new town as a full-time woman to start my own business....  I had been passing unquestionably for well over a year so that was certainly affirming....
...BUT
the most affirming sign was when I attracted several male suitors that had no idea about my secret.  After a few dates and outings with them and they started to get serious I finally felt obligated to tell them.   Those very first male suitors thought I was joking and laughed it off.  Shortly thereafter I came out publicly to the entire town with only very few people expressing their non-acceptance.
Now, as a woman, I belong to a Gym-Gals group, a mostly female Book Club, invited to baby showers and wedding showers, etc.
YES indeed....... very affirming.

Danielle

That is awesome. I hate having to have that talk. I'm glad it worked out well.