Affirming signs that you pass

[CosmicJoke]

Hi everyone. This thread is about receiving affirming signs you pass. I realize that some people may have a harder time with this than others, or haven't transitioned yet, but I'll share something cool that happened to me about 2 months ago.
There's a convenient store near where I live. I usually go there each night to get a candy bar and soda. One particular night I was in there making a purchase and unaware that the money on my gift card was run out. I was in a bit of a pickle as the cashier was asking me for money but I forgot that too.
I told the cashier I will just leave the things there and ask my dad who was in the parking lot for some money. The guy who was waiting behind me said "I'll pay for her." In utmost gratitude my response was "You will!?"
Anyway, this person probably had no idea what that meant to me. He may have only seen it as a simple gesture, but my spirit was lifted. He really did save me there.
I suppose I should take it as an affirmation that I am actually seen as a girl even though most times I may not feel like it simply because I am transgender and people have not always treated me well for it.
This was just something that happened to me, but if anyone else would like to share an affirming moment they may have experienced along their journey however big or small, you're more than welcome to.

[ChrissyRyan]

That was nice!   

Chrissy

[krobinson103]

Earlier this week at a staff meeting a colleague came and said she wanted to compliment me. I said thanks.. .how so? Her Daughters had seen me at a cafe in the holidays and told her that had they not known I was trans they would never have guessed. That was rather affirming!

[Northern Star Girl]

Earlier this week at a staff meeting a colleague came and said she wanted to compliment me. I said thanks.. .how so? Her Daughters had seen me at a cafe in the holidays and told her that had they not known I was trans they would never have guessed. That was rather affirming!

@krobinson103
I just read about that on your latest post on your personal thread....... WOW, things like that are so confidence building and self-affirming.   

Thank you for your post and sharing your happy experience in passing.
Hugs,
Danielle

[NatalieRene]

A few days ago I was walking from the lunch room heading back up to my desk and there was a guy that held the door for me for all four doors. He happened to be going the same way but he made a point of staying ahead (I let him because it was sweet) and getting the door each time. When we got up to the floor where we work he had this strut as he was walking down the hall. I figure he must have liked the view but it was very affirming for me.

[ChrissyRyan]

A few days ago I was walking from the lunch room heading back up to my desk and there was a guy that held the door for me for all four doors. He happened to be going the same way but he made a point of staying ahead (I let him because it was sweet) and getting the door each time. When we got up to the floor where we work he had this strut as he was walking down the hall. I figure he must have liked the view but it was very affirming for me.

Natalie,


That was nice.

Chrissy

[pamelatransuk]

Hello Cosmicjoke

I am mainly in the closet but publicly transitioning later this year.

Recently on the same day I received TWO phone calls and although I only spoke a few words,  on BOTH occasions they said "Thank you Mrs  ------". I felt great!

Hugs

Pamela

[Mathea]

One of my greatest moments in life came the first time I was outside presenting femme during daytime. The occasion was that I was experiencing a major identity crisis and needed to see a gender therapist. This was my first appointment, and I was as nervous as one can possibly be, with nausea, shortness of breath and muscles that were super-tense. When I arrived at the clinic (which also serves as a clinic for general practicioners), I grabbed the first parking space I could see. However, I didn't notice that there was another car which was trying to back up into that same parking space. The woman who drove the car came out and ranted at me. This was like the worst thing that could have happened. I was feeling so extremely vulnerable and insecure and it was the first time I had to speak to another person while presenting female. I stuttered out an apology and said I didn't see her, then I hurried inside. She seemed a bit unhinged, and I didn't want to stay there with her, suffering her abuse.

After my appointment, I went outside again and found one of my windshield wipers broken. A note was attached to it, whereupon "<edited> Bitch!!!" was written.

I don't think anyone in the world have ever been as happy having their wiper broken and being called a bitch, but I kept that note and cherish it to this day! 


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[NatalieRene]

Hello Cosmicjoke

I am mainly in the closet but publicly transitioning later this year.

Recently on the same day I received TWO phone calls and although I only spoke a few words,  on BOTH occasions they said "Thank you Mrs  ------". I felt great!

Hugs

Pamela

That is great. Have you done voice training or it just happened?

[Eva_Saskatchewatch]

One of my greatest moments in life came the first time I was outside presenting femme during daytime. The occasion was that I was experiencing a major identity crisis and needed to see a gender therapist. This was my first appointment, and I was as nervous as one can possibly be, with nausea, shortness of breath and muscles that were super-tense. When I arrived at the clinic (which also serves as a clinic for general practicioners), I grabbed the first parking space I could see. However, I didn't notice that there was another car which was trying to back up into that same parking space. The woman who drove the car came out and ranted at me. This was like the worst thing that could have happened. I was feeling so extremely vulnerable and insecure and it was the first time I had to speak to another person while presenting female. I stuttered out an apology and said I didn't see her, then I hurried inside. She seemed a bit unhinged, and I didn't want to stay there with her, suffering her abuse.

After my appointment, I went outside again and found one of my windshield wipers broken. A note was attached to it, whereupon "<edited> Bitch!!!" was written.

I don't think anyone in the world have ever been as happy having their wiper broken and being called a bitch, but I kept that note and cherish it to this day! 

That's great. One of the few times property damage is actually good.

EDIT: Reading this after I posted it I realize that the way that it's worded makes it sound like I like property damage. I just want to clarify: breaking your windshield wiper is not a nice thing to do. I want to say that if it made you feel better than it's a net gain.

[Wendi]

CosmicJoke,

Nice story and that was very nice of that gentleman.

[Battle Goddess]

One of my greatest moments in life came the first time I was outside presenting femme during daytime. The occasion was that I was experiencing a major identity crisis and needed to see a gender therapist. This was my first appointment, and I was as nervous as one can possibly be, with nausea, shortness of breath and muscles that were super-tense. When I arrived at the clinic (which also serves as a clinic for general practicioners), I grabbed the first parking space I could see. However, I didn't notice that there was another car which was trying to back up into that same parking space. The woman who drove the car came out and ranted at me. This was like the worst thing that could have happened. I was feeling so extremely vulnerable and insecure and it was the first time I had to speak to another person while presenting female. I stuttered out an apology and said I didn't see her, then I hurried inside. She seemed a bit unhinged, and I didn't want to stay there with her, suffering her abuse.

After my appointment, I went outside again and found one of my windshield wipers broken. A note was attached to it, whereupon "<edited> Bitch!!!" was written.

I don't think anyone in the world have ever been as happy having their wiper broken and being called a bitch, but I kept that note and cherish it to this day! 

LMAO

[Patty_M]

When another woman talks with you about her periods and pregnancy you are passing ....

[Northern Star Girl]

When another woman talks with you about her periods and pregnancy you are passing ....

@Patty_M
Dear Patty:
Yes indeed, I have had many conversations like that with cis-women that I have just met at places like my Book Club and also when I attend Baby Showers and Wedding Showers.   One time at a Baby Shower there was one lady there that asked me if I had any children and if I wanted to get pregnant again.    Strange question coming from a stranger but so very affirming for sure.

Thanks for sharing  your thoughts...
Hugs,
Danielle

[transspoonie]

I have a cisgender friend that I share complex information about transitioning, gender dysphoria, and gender euphoria with, and she still forgets I'm trans from time to time. It's very affirming for me, as I know she'd never lie to me about that.

Also, since getting top surgery, I can't think of a single time I've been misgendered in person. I've been "clocked" a few times by well-meaning cis people, usually pointing out that I can use whatever restroom/locker room "makes (me) comfortable," but I don't mind being visibly trans if I'm visibly accepted. I still pass more often than not, and that's all I can really ask for.

[randim]

A panhandler on the street called me young miss a few minutes ago. Can I count that? 😀

[Northern Star Girl]

A panhandlers on the street called me young miss a few minutes ago. Can I count that? 😀

@randim
Yes indeed you can count that!!!

.... and not just  "miss"   but  "young miss"   

Wow-zers!!!    Double points for that!!!

Hugs,
Danielle

[AnamethatstartswithE]

Earlier today the Walmart greeter called me "little lady" and went and got a cart for me. Another one is if women smile at you as you pass by. It's the woman to woman equivalent to the "guy nod."

[Linde]

A panhandler on the street called me young miss a few minutes ago. Can I count that? 😀

I hope you gave generously for this?

[Northern Star Girl]

Earlier today the Walmart greeter called me "little lady" and went and got a cart for me. Another one is if women smile at you as you pass by. It's the woman to woman equivalent to the "guy nod."

@AnamethatstartswithE
Heya  "littlelady" 

.... such good news to read about your enjoyable passing experiences.   
Enjoy fully the kind offers of assistance that comes with being a female.

All of the smiles given by other women are definitely so very affirming...

Thank you for sharing.
Hugs,
Danielle