Hi ladies,
Dating in general can be a hassle, but when you add being MtF, it can get really complicated. I'm out there for the first time since transition, and I'm pre-op. It's hard meeting someone, and I discussed my frustration with my therapist. She suggested online dating, so I've been giving it a try for about six months now. I started out dating lesbian women. That was interesting, and one girl fell in love, but that was not something I was ready to reciprocate, so we stopped dating. My approach was to disclose after a few dates, and that went well sometimes and not so well others. I'm thinking of copyrighting the phrase "guess what?"
With that experience, I realized that I'm really more attracted to men, so I've started dating men. And, I changed my approach. I put in my profile that I'm Mtf to avoid issues on the first date and for safety reasons. As you'd expect, the pool is rather small for this particular dating niche. I'm dating someone I like, now, and it's getting more and more serious. He knows I'm having GCS in July, but that's not a requirement for him. I guess if you're physically attracted to someone, have compatible interests and enjoy their company anything can happen.
Those of you whom have gone before me, are there any pitfalls I should avoid? Any words of wisdom? Before you suggest, I've done a background check and health record check, with his permission, of course. A girl can't be too careful. Thanks for any advice!
