In a perfect world we would all just be PEOPLE. However, we are a world of compartments, cliques, groups, subgroups, tribes and nations. I use to get really bent out of shape internally when I started transition and would get called sir, it hurt, I panicked and left what ever situation(I looked like a boy in a dress for eight months give or take) Now it's just my voice that breaks and gives me away. I prefer to be called what I present as that is feminine, I really preferred to be called Sexy Stuff by my partner Susan, Margarine by my best friend Nanci, Daughter by my father. The pronoun thing is just so vexing, I call people guys, have been referred t o as you guys or ladies or ya'all in a group or a pair. I stopped going to support groups as there was too much whispering and judging, it was like junior high school. So yes, I wish we could all just go along to get along. So for my part I just introduce myself as Margaret, in the past 6 months I have had three people ask if I was trans, they were polite and it turned into a long conversation and me texting them some recourses. The very few times that I have gotten the rude are you a man or woman, I reply yes which set of chromosomes would you like me to show you? Or I tried being a man, but it was way too much work 🙂
