Hey there, I was just shown this forum and I'm so excited to be here. I'm Carmen

[Carmen-]

I can't believe there's an active trans forum out there! I used to use forums so much, but they got replaced by sites like ->-bleeped-<- and twitter. Forums are just the best way to talk to people and make connections. I have no idea why they went out of style, I loved them so much. Anyway, I'm 22, pre HRT trans girl. I start hormones very soon, though. I'll just say right now I have a lot of opinions that might be offensive but I won't ever talk about them because I want to stay here and I don't want to bring anyone down. They're mine to deal with and you won't see me ever arguing for my deeply held beliefs, because the last thing I want to is bring sadness to this awesome, positive place. But just so you can understand me and how I feel, I should let you know - I have this intense jealously and reverence whenever I'm around cis women, and I know it's not a good thing and it's not fair to them because no one chooses how they were born, but yeah. I just have this deep set belief that cis women are superior to trans women and always will be, and that no trans woman can ever attain the perfection that cis women were given from birth. It's something I've accepted, and something I genuinely feel that I can live with my entire life. It just makes me more grateful for any man who chooses me over a cis woman. I don't want to offend anyone but I do believe in that. I promise to never talk about this again, but I just wanted to share that in my introduction post so you guys can know me a little bit better.

Anyway, I'm happy to be here and I really want to stay here for a long time. If you guys want to see what I look like, I have an imgur album here: https://imgur.com/a/o0eBZ Thank you so much for maintaining this forum over the years and keeping it active, I think this place will help me out a lot honestly. Also my Discord is Carmen#0072 if anyone uses that service 

[KimOct]

Hi Carmen - I took a look at your pic.  You can post them directly into your post.  I am not the one to give instructions as I struggle with it a bit but I can eventually do it so it is easy.

If you are currently pre HRT you will be very pretty in the next year or two.  HRT does not dramatically alter your face but it does soften it a bit IMO.

As for having strong opinions I am in the same boat as you.  I do tend to piss off some other trans people because I have strong opinions about living authentically for multiple reasons.  When I started to come out and transition I had a few mentors that used the tough love approach with me and asked me difficult questions to in turn ask myself.

For me this approach was very helpful.  The type of things such as 'why are you doing this' and 'what are you REALLY afraid of'.   Being openly trans takes some courage but in the end I think it is a healthy approach.

For me when I am provocative I do try to take the - this is just my opinion approach and also try to be polite.  I am not the judge of anyone except myself - but I do like to give my opinion based on my experiences.  That is what others did for me and it helped.  So my vote is - let your opinions fly just try to be polite and respectful.

[V M]

Hi Carmen 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that we offer to all new members to help them along

Things that you should read

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By	Standard Terms & Definitions	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)	Cautionary Note
Reputation rules	News posting & quoting guidelines	Photo, avatars, & signature images policy	Membership Agreement

Hugs

V M

[Carmen-]

Hi Carmen - I took a look at your pic.  You can post them directly into your post.  I am not the one to give instructions as I struggle with it a bit but I can eventually do it so it is easy.

If you are currently pre HRT you will be very pretty in the next year or two.  HRT does not dramatically alter your face but it does soften it a bit IMO.

As for having strong opinions I am in the same boat as you.  I do tend to piss off some other trans people because I have strong opinions about living authentically for multiple reasons.  When I started to come out and transition I had a few mentors that used the tough love approach with me and asked me difficult questions to in turn ask myself.

For me this approach was very helpful.  The type of things such as 'why are you doing this' and 'what are you REALLY afraid of'.   Being openly trans takes some courage but in the end I think it is a healthy approach.

For me when I am provocative I do try to take the - this is just my opinion approach and also try to be polite.  I am not the judge of anyone except myself - but I do like to give my opinion based on my experiences.  That is what others did for me and it helped.  So my vote is - let your opinions fly just try to be polite and respectful.

Awesome, thank you for this reply! Sorry for switching the topic to forum mechanics, but how do I get an avatar? I don't see a way to upload it on my account. And do I have to do this capcha/verification with every post I make? Do you ever stop needing to do that?

[V M]

Awesome, thank you for this reply! Sorry for switching the topic to forum mechanics, but how do I get an avatar? I don't see a way to upload it on my account. And do I have to do this capcha/verification with every post I make? Do you ever stop needing to do that?

Yeah Carmen

Eventually the capcha will stop and most all the other stuff is in the links I just posted for you

[Danielle Kristina]

Hi Carmen!  Glad you're here  Welcome!!!

[Carmen-]

Yeah Carmen

Eventually the capcha will stop and most all the other stuff is in the links I just posted for you

Yeah I read the rules and all that, but I'm saying I don't see a place in the account settings where I can upload an avatar. I've used a lot of forums so I should know what I'm doing, I'm sorry lol.

Hi Carmen!  Glad you're here  Welcome!!!

Aw thank you! I'm glad to be here.

[V M]

You need 15 legit posts and whoop there it is    Just don't get into "Post Padding" because that will get you in trouble

Make sure your posts mean something

[Carmen-]

You need 15 legit posts and whoop there it is    Just don't get into "Post Padding" because that will get you in trouble

Make sure your posts mean something

Ahh that makes sense, I thought it might be something like that. And no way, I would never do that, it would be pretty selfish to spam this amazing forum just so I could get an avatar quicker. I just wanted to make sure I could do it eventually. Thanks for letting me know <3

[Ricki Wright]

Welcome!

22 eh? If you start HRT before 25 you may get pelvic tilt as the bones have not fused yet. You could end up with a very nice natural swagger. I have a hard time separating if I want to be, befriend, or just bed women so I understand the worship mentality in part. Your opinion about cis women being categorically superior is your own however, and as a human, you are welcome to it. I choose to believe that trans women are women and deserve to be treated as such.

Ricki

[ChrissyRyan]

Carmen,


Welcome!

Chrissy

[Arianna Valentine]

Hello Carmen I just wanted to say welcome to the group I am Arianna

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[Northern Star Girl]

@Carmen-     
Dear Carmen:
     I am very happy to see that you signed up as a member of Susan's Place and that you have now posted in the Forums.

    As you continue to post here you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you mentioned in your Introduction.

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.

    I see that our lovely member  @V M  has already Officially Welcomed you,
but please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place also please allow me to add some more of my thoughts as I warmly welcome you.
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you should be aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    There is information and important LINKS that  V M included below her Welcome Message to you.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[Carmen-]

Welcome!

22 eh? If you start HRT before 25 you may get pelvic tilt as the bones have not fused yet. You could end up with a very nice natural swagger. I have a hard time separating if I want to be, befriend, or just bed women so I understand the worship mentality in part. Your opinion about cis women being categorically superior is your own however, and as a human, you are welcome to it. I choose to believe that trans women are women and deserve to be treated as such.

Ricki

Thank you so much for these kind words Ricki! I'm glad to know that I have three years to spare, that actually makes me so happy. I'm starting hormones in February, so I won't need those years but it makes me feel good that my pelvis won't get fused and that I transitioned in time to stop that from being a problem. Thank you for understanding my feelings about cis women superiority. I really don't want to offend anyone and I'll keep my thoughts to myself for sure. In general, you seem like such an awesome person and I hope we can become friends on here!

Carmen,


Welcome!

Chrissy

Hey Chrissy! Thank you for the warm invite. I like your avatar, that's a cute girl.

Hello Carmen I just wanted to say welcome to the group I am Arianna

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Hey Arianna! Oh my goodness everyone here is so nice and welcoming, I love it! Is that you in your avatar? You are so gorgeous!! I hope my transition works out as well as yours did, seeing such a beautiful trans woman like you actually really gives me a lot of hope <3

@Carmen-     
Dear Carmen:
     I am very happy to see that you signed up as a member of Susan's Place and that you have now posted in the Forums.

    As you continue to post here you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you mentioned in your Introduction.

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.

    I see that our lovely member  @V M  has already Officially Welcomed you,
but please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place also please allow me to add some more of my thoughts as I warmly welcome you.
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you should be aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    There is information and important LINKS that  V M included below her Welcome Message to you.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

Yes VM welcomed me already, she is very nice and so are you! I'm glad you guys want me here and YES I'd love to make lasting friendships. Honestly I'm so happy I found this place, it seems incredible. I'm looking forward to spending a lot of time here <3

[Arianna Valentine]

Thank you so much for these kind words Ricki! I'm glad to know that I have three years to spare, that actually makes me so happy. I'm starting hormones in February, so I won't need those years but it makes me feel good that my pelvis won't get fused and that I transitioned in time to stop that from being a problem. Thank you for understanding my feelings about cis women superiority. I really don't want to offend anyone and I'll keep my thoughts to myself for sure. In general, you seem like such an awesome person and I hope we can become friends on here!


Hey Chrissy! Thank you for the warm invite. I like your avatar, that's a cute girl.

Hey Arianna! Oh my goodness everyone here is so nice and welcoming, I love it! Is that you in your avatar? You are so gorgeous!! I hope my transition works out as well as yours did, seeing such a beautiful trans woman like you actually really gives me a lot of hope <3

Yes VM welcomed me already, she is very nice and so are you! I'm glad you guys want me here and YES I'd love to make lasting friendships. Honestly I'm so happy I found this place, it seems incredible. I'm looking forward to spending a lot of time here <3

That is me and my profile photo that is a couple weeks ago actually I'm glad you like it and being as young as you are I am absolutely positive you will be way more beautiful than I am and you already look extremely feminine so you will do just perfect

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