I'm thinking this isn't transgender talk, but not for nothing, what women's shoes have you tried on?
I mean, I have a large foot size, but can fit into many women sizes that are the same as men's. Makes a lot of difference, how your foot is formed. Try various brands. Aerosoles, Comfortview, and brands thru Maryland Square, offer sizes and widths I can directly correlate. Brands like Nine West, on the other hand, are waay undersized for me. I've never brought from aforementioned sites, but don't pay a premium just 'cuz your TG.
Entirely depends on what style you're looking for.