@Michelledeanna1989 Dear Michelle:I am back now and I have the time to write more to you.
The transition journey is not for sissies .... the road is full of pot holes, disappointments, discouragements, failures and bad moments but the
GOOD NEWS is that it also a place of successes, affirmation, and good moments too.
Passing is a subjective thing to most onlookers and people that you come across. First off, parents and immedate family and close friends that knew you best as your "old self" will many times have the most difficult time accepting transition announcements and even long after the announcement they will have the most difficult time re-programming their mind to your new appearance, your new gender identity, and your new name, no matter how you appear to them.
I have been passing 100% without fail for over 2 years since early December 2016.... but when I go back "home" to those that knew me "before" I still get dead named, wrong pronouns, etc. It is hurtful for sure, but do realize that it is most difficult for parents and immediate family, they had a son, a brother, and uncle, etc.... and now your are a daughter, a sister, an aunt, etc. Very difficult for everyone for sure.
As far as your unhappy encounters with others at stores and elsewhere, these failures can be used as learning moments to help you to refine your appearance, your voice, your body motions and gestures, etc... do a lot of people watching at a busy mall or a busy airport, watch how women are dressed, how they move, sit, walk, talk with their hands, and listen to how they talk to others.... it is one of my favorite things to do... people watching!!!!
I trust that you can pull yourself together and get back to a happy place with your transition plans.
Below the end of my posting/message in my signature line I have
3 of my threads listed, each one can provide encouragement for you as others have posted their trials and tribulations to share... and there are reply comments from those with their helpful and encouraging words.
The
Positivity thread is just exactly what it says it is.... and the
Writers and Book readers thread provides quotes and thoughts with much wisdom for those that are experiencing difficult times.
I sincerely hope and trust that you find some encouragement and solace in my replies to you.
Please feel free to address any comments or thoughts that you have for me.
Best wishes,
Danielle Quoteauthor=Michelledeanna1989 link=topic=244768.msg2228567#msg2228567 date=1550591397]
Hey I am still struggling to pass no matter how much better
I feel as soon as I leave the house it's alway he and sir. I've been trying
Hard to ignore it but I'm 6.4 and I just don't know if I ever will I'm
Starting to give up. Regret coming out and think negatively about myself
I've started complaining to stores. I corrected a cashier at the grocery store last
Night said I'm a she he looked at me confused I complained to this one grocery stores head
Office never got an apology. When I mentioned that I was a she the guy though I was referring
To buk Chou I said I'm trans and go by she after a old lady and him kept calling me he. Why do people not get that trans people are real. My dad thinks I'm ruining my life refuses to acknowledge that I am transgender thinks no one will hire me still says my son dead names me calls he. Says if he was not with his wife he wouldn't allow me to transition. It's getting to be too much most days I don't even want to leave my house because of it.. I'm not a super big person I skinny and tall I don't understand why people can't be more observant when I go into a store I'm sick of this I don't now if I can face the rest of my life as being always mis gendered I'm not masculine face wise I don't know