Quote from: jameswhiteshine on February 22, 2019, 02:56:38 PM
Hi Everyone,
I am a biological male who identifies as a woman, however, I still present as a male. In order for me to present and pass as a male, I have been growing out my facial hair as well. I don't have any issues presenting as a male when I have some facial hair but whenever I lose it, I step into the androgynous territory and look femme without any makeup. I am in my early 20s and I am just trying to postpone my transition even though I badly want to do that. I need to establish myself in the job market and hopefully get a permanent resident status in my country of residence before I eventually transition. The problem here is I cross-dress everyday in private and I can't just help it. Not to mention the dysphoria that hits back hard when I go back to presenting as a male. Is there a way to stop this? The last time I did this and went to self-denial, it only came back with more intensity.
- Jimmy
Hi Jimmy,
Fighting the inner woman head on will only make her stronger. You must find a way to live with her. In 2017- for 12 months- I gave HRT away and tried to snap out of the dysphoria/transgender mindset.
It all came back with greater intensity. I found the key to not being consumed with it all is.
1. Maintain health & fitness.
2. Control or eliminate drinking or any drugs.
3.Have people or a friend you can talk to when needed. Total secrecy increases dysphoria.
4.Accept you have a feminine side.
5. Use the girl expression/dressing in a structured way to release the pent up angst(dysphoria).
6.Prescribed androgen blocker/estrogen can help if other methods arent enough.
How fast does your beard grow? Clean shaven and presenting female can be reversed by not shaving for 2 days and having manicured stubble.
You may already have plans to live as a woman in the future. Use that goal as a structured way to cope.
I know the inner woman can be relentless at times!
King regards, Kirsten.
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