Quote from: HappyMoni on April 16, 2019, 10:21:09 AM
Thanks Kate,
I think guys from that period of time (the macho days) accept me on a logical basis. Emotionally, they still are adjusting to 'me.' They don't see me everyday, just once in a while. It's great that you mentioned the flirty aspect because you may have hit on part of my problem. I think I am afraid that I will come off as flirty with my lack of control and confidence. I would die if my old boss thought I was flirting with him. Too weird for either of us. If my orientation hadn't taken it's shift, maybe I would dismiss this possibility easier. In general, I am interested in flirting with guys now. (Not ones I knew before though.) Funny, I put this off so long, now I can't wait to start tackling this. I am realizing how limiting I am socially due to my voice.
It would be funny if you had a hidden camera and like an announcer from one of the old wild life shows. "Now watch as the transgender female tries to vocalize. The male of the species meanwhile, seems to be trying to figure out how to adjust to this radically new environment." I can see him relating to me on old terms, with old references. Then, wait, that doesn't quite fit any more. Now, what's the new nickname, oh crap almost said the old name. Wow, it must be pretty confusing. I just don't want, "Is she flirting with me, yuck!" lol Thanks Kate, you helped me figure out part of this. The mental part anyway. @KatieP
I can totally see it!
Adjusting to people from your past, whether it's friends or family, can be really trying for all of us.
Quote from: NatalieRene on April 16, 2019, 10:44:06 AM
Ok that is much easier to hear.
You have your pitch up but I'm not sure if it is falsetto.
What you need to do is work on resonance. You want the vibration to come from your throat and not your chest. Take two fingers and put them under your chin touching your neck. When you speak move the vibration up to your throat.
You also need to work on inflection. You'll want to practice utilizing pitch for emphasis rather then loudness. This bit is a little harder but if you can master it it will be very effective.
Thank you. I definitely need to work on resonance, that's for sure.
What I will say is that I had to be kind of quiet when I was recording that as sound travels in this house like we had no walls at all and someone was sleeping (or trying to), so my voice wasn't
quite my normal speaking voice. No, it's not falsetto, but I do need to work on all of my ranges and volumes.
I've started to watch a bunch of YT videos and I'll be working on this constantly.
I was just visiting my mom and I was chatting up a storm because I'm hopped up on caffeine. I told her I heard my recorded voice for the first time in 16 years and how I knew it was
horrible! She told me I didn't sound horrible at all while I was there and sounded pretty natural. I know the window guy didn't think twice. I guess I was really tense last night (microphones scare me! almost if not more than people from my past do!). I'll try to get a new recording in my more natural tone and resonance, but I think I'll be starting a voice training diary for further posts.
I really appreciate your suggestions!