Coming out to my mom has been a recurring theme throughout the last 15 years. *sigh* But guess what? This time I was more serious about it, and now I've started therapy, and my therapist told me that she'd be delighted to help me talk to my mom about this.
The only other family member I came out to was my sister, and I really wish I hadn't. But she pretty much cornered me on it.
It's very intimidating, the idea of coming out to my dad. The time for that just may be soon. He, like pretty much the rest of my family, is a Democrat, but I don't now what he'd really think of his own child being transgender. But one of my future therapist appointments, he's going to have to come pick me up from it. I don't know, maybe he just won't ask what the therapy is for. Or maybe he'll somehow assume it is physical therapy (which I'm also supposed to be having)
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Aside from my mom (which I did pretty early on after discovering transgender was a real thing that wasn't just an issue specific to me), coming out to my first friend was very nerve-wracking for me. I feel like nowadays, you can tell how supportive people will be through their social media (family aside, family is always a wild card), because being transgender is more of a subject that can't be avoided nowadays. However, back in 2008 when I came out to my first friend, being transgender wasn't talked about as much. I could not judge the reactions that any of my friends would have. I trusted this particular friend because she was my best friend. I had really tested the subject multiple times by hinting, before I finally said something that would ultimately bring her to connect the dots. Even then, she was in a little bit of disbelief so I had to officially come out. Lol. She was such a fun person. I miss her friendship.
The rest of the friends at the time, I think I came out to pretty much following her. That fall we had started dating and I was more confident.
Just about every friend I've told since I have been able to easily gauge how they'll react from their presence on social media. The only exception being someone who turned out to be a transgender man himself, and we both came out simultaneously.