Hey Ladies!
I am fully out at work, changed my name on the door to my office, told the leadership staff personnally, sent out an e-mail to another group about what is going on, told the contractors I work with daily, and told a long time friend.
This was such a rewarding experience, not one negative word was spoken to me, but I do notice some snubs since then, I expected that. No direct comments though, In fact I heard, you are courageous, I want to let you know I respect you, a coworker said, lets go to lunch soon, I had to write out what I wanted to tell them. I started with I have had a struggle for many years, and two years ago I figured it out and I am a woman, I am transgender, and I am Marcie. from there I told them that I know same may not agree with this or understand this, but if anyone has any questions I will be glad to talk with them. I also said I hope that the y will show me respect and use appropriate pronouns form now on. I got hugs, and at one point clapping. It was not unanimous, but pretty close. Amazing!!!
A few days and a weekend later I met another coworker from a different office, they said delightedly, Hey Marcie! I beamed and replied so you have heard, and he said yes, and its great. We hugged! laughed and it was wonderful.
I know things will happen and some have, some still calling me by my old name, but they are trying. No one is intentionally misgendering me. I know this may fall on ears that are having a truly rough time with telling work, or with coworkers misgendering, but at this point, I am floating! I know the day will come when someone will intentionally say something mean, But I do work for a school system that has penalties for thise who continue to do that so I hope that will minimize any of that!
I hope this does not further depress anyone who is having a hard time at work with transitioning, I just want to share how it went for me! It is possible. Happy Moni totally helped me along with this. She is such a true friend!
More later, but Love and Hugs for now, Marcie
