Quote from: sophie1904 on April 14, 2019, 11:41:58 AM
I had never heard of shallow vs full depth and have been doing some reading on it.
How have you found it? While it rules out penetrative sex, does clitoral stimulation remain? I'm assuming the recovery time from it is much easier as well as dilation will be off the agenda?
I/we (my partner and I) have been quite please with our choice of the shallow procedure.
Yes, it does rule out penetrative sex but my clitoris is quite sensitive, way more so than expected and can be fun.
Surgical time was not greatly reduced, I was on the table for a long time and was told that if I had chosen full depth it would have only added perhaps twenty to thirty minutes more.
Recovery time is recovery time. It was major surgery with a lot of body modification and thus a lot of healing. I can not say that my recovery time was significantly "easier" than that of full depth folks. The opportunity of complications were greatly reduced and I did not have any "complications". It was still months until I had regained strength and endurance....that said, at a year and a half post op, healing is a distant and insignificant memory.
Dilation is a non issue. There are many who have chosen full depth and have gotten to the point of infrequent dilation requirements. We travel a lot and it has been a blessing to never have to take the time, find a place, carry dilators, clean up afterwards, etc. But then, penetrative sex is not an option.
We are both very happy with the choices we made. Please keep in mind that we are a long time couple, thirty five years together and I am now in my seventies....... And, if I had been single, I probably would have gone for full depth just to keep the options available and I would probably be grumbling about dilation maintenance needs....
Dr. Ley did say that if I desired to add a full depth vaginal canal at a later date, it could be done. She suggested that a skin graft would probably be taken from my thigh but the details were not discussed.
One more point on Dr. Ley's side, she is transgender and when she put her hand on my shoulder and told me that it would be all right, she knew what I was going through and that meant a lot to me.
Please feel free to pm me with any specific questions if you so desire.
Tia Anne