Hey every one ,
So who here had to come out because of circumstances forced them to before they were actually ready for it?
This recently happened to me on Easter
Im 53 when I started hormones in May of 2017, My mom lives close and I decided that I would come out to her so that if something medically happened at least one family member would know. I planned on a slower transition and coming out.
I own a business in a male dominated field and have been trying to figure out how to transition in the field and make it work still haven't totally figured that out but after so long I think that some changes are visible but no one has said anything so ive just been cruising along.
I originally wanted to get some of the basics out of the way , wanted my facial hair removal complete, wanted hormones to have time to work, and actually wanted to have my FFS before I fully came out.
But I have had issues from the start trying to suppress the T so in March I had an orchiectomy to fix this issue.
This is where it all started, my mom was the only one who knew and recently had back surgery, she was not able to drive me to the hospital for the surgery. So I was going to come out to my older Brother to see how he took the news and if He would drive me, but my daughter would have been upset if I came out to other people before her and she found out, so I decided to come out to my daughter first which I did.
So my brother takes me to the surgery everything was great not issues. Easter the whole entire family got together at my Dad's house. I guess my sister in-law (older brothers0 wife noticed something and unbeknown to me was studying me for the day lol
When they went home she started questioning my brother about what exactly was going on with me because I was acting feminine , I completely was just being me the same as always as far as I know. So he told her and called me and let me know. At this time I knew I only had a few days before it was out to their grown kids and then it would just become known to the whole family. I did not want anyone to find out thru the gossip train so the next day I just took some deep breaths and drove to my dads house and came out to them, then while the momentum was going drove home and called all my siblings and came out. They are asked if the could tell their kids, my daughter asked if she could tell my grandkids her and her mom my ex wife now. At this point I knew there was no way to contain this so I just said go it.
This was on Wednesday I can say I was having panic attacks and anxiety a bit Thursday, I wanted to mentally prepared and be in control when I came out, this was definitely not how or when. Plan was about a year from now.
I will post about everyone's reaction in another post in the coming section
So has anyone had any stories similar they would like to share?
