Hi All,
Please feel free to weigh in on this.
I started HRT 9 months ago and laser and electrolosis at the same time. I have had two hair transplants over the last 10 years.
The less than ordinary part that I am attempting is just basically transitioning without actually making any announcement that I am transgender or M to F or anything like this. I made the commitment to my wife that I would not stand up on a soapbox and proclaim this to the world or walk around our neighbourhood in a dress. We did agree the kids would be told in the coming future but I was hoping to get the kids closer to the end of High School. Not telling them I am finding tough out of the gate as I am having obvious changes with Hormones. I think they might suspect something. I told my therapist and Endo of my plan to not officially socially transition at the beginning and they both told me this would be very very difficult, and they are right!
Thankfully she still prescribed the hormones and I feel fantastic.
My wife's mood changes with the wind but she ranges from putting up with it (not accepting) to full out resistance, cut your hair, get a hair cut , please cut your hair, etc, etc. However as I think of it I believe I actually have started to socially transition years ago without even realizing it. I have been wearing women's jeans, hoodies, t-shirts, socks, leggings as long johns, running shoes, etc etc. for years. At any given time 80 to 90% of my outfit is women's. This is just normal for me, very subtle but not much different than many women might wear on any weekend. This is just me to my kids and they don't really know, but they do tease me at times (your jeans are too tight) Most of the general public don't even notice as I go about my day. One of my two jobs is a cleaner so this is very appropriate clothing for my daily activities.
What I am really finding hard as I continue to change with hormones etc. is this resistance from my wife. I think she thinks we can keep this totally hidden forever but yet she admits that she is seeing visible breast growth. ? I am not sure we will ultimately make it and I'm ok with it which terrified me before so that's a total shift in my universe.
More to come on my personal thread Jessica's Journey in the coming months.
Jessica.
