Am I still trans?

[Linde]

I don't know whether it is my personality (I am diagnosed with a pretty strong case of NVLD, wich is considered to be part of the Asperger's spectrum), and feel pretty low in any kind of emotions currently, or is it progesterone starting to work with my emotions? Or is it my intersex condition?
Anyway, I don't feel like nothing currently, not really feminine nor masculine, just empty.
When I get dressed for the day in the morning, I put female clothing on, I don't even think twice about it (the same like I did when i was still a male, not thinking to put anything but guy stuff on).  This means my maleness is definitely a hing o the past!
But when I stay home the entire day, I just put shorts and a t-shirt on.  Today was such a day.  When I walked around or did tings, I did not feel like anything, not female or male, just a body doing stuff, and if I did not watch it, I hurt my boobs while doing things.  But even the pain from this location did not awake any femininity inside me, it was just pain coming from one part of my body.
Am I so much into the female routine already that I don't see it as something special anymore?
Society seems to have accepted me as a woman, I am invited tomorrow to the second mothers day dinner this week.  I was told that I am a woman and a parent, and because of this, I am supposed to participate in mothers day events!  This means, I am a pretty mainstream woman now, hanging around with all the other mothers.
Am I so mainstream now that being a woman does not feel special anymore?
And that brings up the question, am I still trans or have I arrived and am I mentally at the end of my transition route?

I do not buy into the opinion that I will be trans for the rest of my life, transition was for me the path to womanhood, once I have arrived, I am a woman, and not a trans woman.  On the other hand the biology of my body is mostly female to start with, and this might cause  the "normal" feeling?

Just some rambling late in the evening, and I wonder, if  am alone like this, or if others have similar feelings?

[Rayna]

Hi Linde, could it be hormone levels causing such a low? This blah or unmotivated feeling can be caused by too low testosterone.

I hope you feel some more excitement soon!

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[krobinson103]

I feel just like a women. Sure I have one more surgery to complete, but that makes no difference to my public life. I just feel like my body is right. Still a bit of a surprise sometimes, but otherwise business as usual. I like it that way. Guess it means that 'transition' is over...

[Amoré]

Hi Lind, I don't think most CIS people go around the whole day feeling male or female they just go about their day.

They don't really think much of how it feels to feel female or male. Once you settle in to a gender role that fits you you just feel human.

Yes you are into such a female routine that you don't feel it as something special anymore.

You stop worrying about being female. You sometimes worry about looking good and dressing nice but you also worry about other things and stopped obsessing about being female and is just female.

Damn I rock t shirts and shorts a lot at home my fiance think it is cute. I don't own boy shorts anymore though.

I don't feel I have to validate that I am female by dressing super female each day doing nails and stuff.
I don't dress nice some days to feel female I dress nice to feel good about myself. Also to look good.



I wish I was comfortable with my body though. But when it comes day to day I don't feel there is anything special about it I just live life and that is how it is supposed to be. That is the idea with transitioning in my opinion to feel normal and when you reach the point you have that is normal.

So to answer the subject of the post. Yes you are still trans. Your lifestyle habits and all just changed so that stuff feels normal and suits who you are. That is in my opinion the point of transitioning to transition from one gender too the other so that life can become normal.

Normally transgender people hate me for my point of views. When they ask me it must be exciting to be a woman I am like noooo you have it all wrong babe. It is boring and normal. The only part that sucks about it is I live a normal life as a woman. With some challenges of not having a vagina. I face the normal challenges that woman face. Then some transgender challenges.

Believe me if there was a pill to take away being transgender make me feel normal in the body that I was born in and that was an option I would take it.

I became a woman to feel normal.

[LizK]

Prior to transition I was always aware of my maleness, it bugged me and got in the way of so many things and I was acutely aware of it as a matter of every day. As my transition has progressed it became about femaleness and being feminie but since I have completed my physical transition, apart from ongoing HRT which will continue to change my body for years to come. In a very real practical sense it is at the end....I find myself now getting through whole days without thinking about any of it and just being me.

Maybe you are experiencing a combination of these things(after all we are complicated beings). After such a long time with the emphasis on transition and leading to a very important and exciting end point for you (your last surgery)...maybe you are experiencing similar to what happens after many life changing events in our life...its returns to being life and now its time to live!

Enjoy your mothers day outings

Take care

Liz

[F_P_M]

as others have said, sounds pretty CIS lol.
I have asked a few people about their gender identity (cis people) and they've all said they never thought about it, it's just kinda.. instinctive? I dunno.

Ultimately the big question is, even if things aren't exciting and shiny and new anymore, are  you HAPPY?
Do you feel content and comfortable?

Because ultimately, that's the end goal isn't it?

[CynthiaAnn]

Life is wonderful when gender fades into the background, and you just live. We think and write about these subjects here far more than most people, it's like overthinking and analyzing the fine details of just about everything, but once achieved it's really nice to relax, let your hair down and go about your daily life.

Enjoy the mother's day celebrations Linde

Cheers

Cynthia -

[Alice V]

It doesn't have to be something special. You just freed yourself from what irritated you and live normal life now, and I congratz you with that. It's okay to feel normal.

[Linde]

Hi Linde, could it be hormone levels causing such a low? This blah or unmotivated feeling can be caused by too low testosterone.

I hope you feel some more excitement soon!

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I was "fixed", and my testosterone levels will not change anymore.  It is at the low female level.  My endocrinologist loves it at this level, and estrogen wise he keeps me at the female ovulation level (to be exact, at about day 10 of this cycle).

I don't think it is low testosterone, because that is like it is currently since my orchi end of February.
It is not as if I have no energy to live my life, but it is just a blah every day type of life now.

Like others write here, it is just the life of an older woman (who hates housework), and little things like today's mothers day luncheon are now the highlights of my life.  No excitement to be a woman anymore, no thinking if I pass or not anymore, none of this kind of adrenalen rush anymore, going into a female bathroom.  Nothing, just getting up in the morning putting on clothing appropriate for the days plans, and living those. 
I am not excited about my boobs anymore, they are just there, and hurt, if I hit them when being clumsy!

And that is my question, did I step out of being a trans woman into the life of a cis woman?  Does this ovary of mine,and some other very female features (a lot of typical female genes) allow me to ever be like a cis woman?
have i ever been trans, or did I just change my presentation?