Apology accepted, Dani!
And I do understand the self-denial thing, I still think he is in self-denial about a lot of things, which we are trying to work through.
For 2 years he was secretly underdressing without me knowing, and had shaved off all his body hair, which again I didn't know about, as he spent that time covered up, and in bed, neck to ankle pyjamas, avoiding any contact with me. I thought he didn't want me any more... Because he works away from home most of the time, it was relatively easy for him to to keep his 'secret'. Of course, I eventually found out and since then we've been communicating as honestly as possible.
And I know the herbal thing was unlikely to have much affect. He heard that it can raise E levels and help breast growth. He was only trying it until he got the go-ahead for legal medication.