Trouble At Work and super upset

[notaprofessionaljustapro]

I am going to start out by saying that I need advice, whether legal or directional, because right now I am LOST.


Next week marks a year with my company.

I am the second best agent when it comes to all the categories that measure performance. I was only late one time this YEAR by 6 minutes. I stay out of trouble. Clients and Outside Management alike was always praising me and telling me they were excited for my growth with the company.

I have a department manager. He is openly religious and had made several comments in public referencing me and "lifestyle choices," and other comments to other people at work. Everybody knows hes devout. Which is fine.... or so I thought.

I applied for a position and was excited when he told me I was in consideration.

I found out that the position was for a completely different department, and I was confused because I know the content really very well.  I decided to see how it would go anyway, and spend three days training with the other department. On Friday, he told me he was putting in the paper work for my transfer and promotion, the same day where he mentioned there was no pay increase, no benefit increase, and the position is EASILY four times the work, and not a work from home (which was really helpful for my transition). I was shocked. It felt like he was demoting me by transferring me out, losing working from home, four times the work and not the content I was use to.

I told him thank you and I will be preparing for it.

I talked to my person about it, I even called my therapist and I couldnt shake the feeling that this wasn't an oversight, it was an agenda. So I put all of that aside, and figured, Working From Home is what I need now anyway. Its safe and I can keep doing the stuff I know and continue with my transition.

So the next morning (Saturday) I message a supervisor who told me that she would let the department manger know. My direct supervisor messages me and told me to call him right away.

I did and now I regret it.

He bashed me and threatened me and told me he would never promote me at work so I should take what I can get, and he certainly continued. I wish it had been recorded. I put him on speaker phone in time for my partner to hear a bit of it. But now its my word against his. And in the bible belt, where he has been the Department Manager for 11 years..... It hasnt gone far.

ever since this, i was transferred to a supervisor who I had already mentioned to managerment that I wasnt comfortable working under because he had made seriously questionable statements to me in the past, documented by HR. Now hes my direct supervisor. Now my pay has suddenly changed, and they wont offer me the case by case stats to prove that they are not manipulating my pay. The department manager chooses what everybody gets paid.

I am being treated so terribly and I am so upset.  Im so frustrated to put in all this time and training to have it blow to the wind. Im afraid to even put down the current supervisor and Department Manager on my resume. I dont know what to do. I really wanted to re-enlist but that isnt going to happen. I really want to pursue something with my associates degree but its very specific.

Any advice of any kind is appreciated.

[CynthiaAnn]

Hi, I read your story, and I would be upset too if that happened to me. It sounds like applying for the new position started all this, and now it's gone against you. You mention bible belt, that does not sound favorable, however labor protections do vary state by state.

1st what does HR say ? Perhaps getting their feed back and mention the "bashing" you received over the phone. See if you can return to the original position (not likely, but worth asking about)

Might be time to start looking elsewhere as you elude to, at least the economy and job market is in relatively good shape. I am afraid given recent social trends that these forms of "discrimination" type events are on the rise.

Best of luck

C -

[Rachel]

I am sorry this is happing to you.

It sounds like this was planned and meant to make you quit.

There is a transwoman I know that started at an Amazon wear house. They gave her more work and hard work pulling stock in the wear house.  She was given the worst shift too. Now she manages the wear house for 2nd shift. She works hard and outperforms her co-workers.

To me there are 4 choices:

Find a lawyer,
quit,
do your job and keep quiet,
Become your bosses supervisor.

I would weigh your options and make a choice. If working where, you know will never improve then option 4 is out. If your job will eventually cause you to abruptly quit then choice three is out. That leaves option 1 or 2. I would at that point think about option 1 while looking for another job and exercising option 2 at a point when the lawyer recommends.

[AvaNovum]

Ouch   My Heart Hurts for you. I have been in a similar situation, for different reasons, and it is very difficult.

• Stay calm and don't do anything right away.  You need to assess the situation and choose the best solution.
• Sit down and document everything that happened and what was said.  Keep this very matter-of-fact, you can say that you were angry and/or scared but don't attribute malice or say how you think others feel about you.  The point of this exercise is to create a timeline of events as evidence of discriminatory treatment. I cannot emphasise enough that this needs to be objective and factual.
• Check what the laws are regarding discrimination in your local area. Some city or county laws differ from the state ones.
• Contact the Transgender Law Center https://transgenderlawcenter.org/ They may be able to provide some help or direct you to other resources.
• Start looking for other employment options. You don't mention your industry start networking and see what is out there.
• Once you have your documentation reach out to HR. Depending upon the company they may or may not be of some help but regardless you need to come to them with a workable solution, not just a complaint. Also be sure to tag ALL communications as Personal and Confidential.
• Seriously start looking for other employment options.  There is likely someplace who would better appreciate you as a person and a positive asset to their business.

I wish you the Best of Luck.