Who was the first person you came out to?

[Jessica_Rose]

« on: January 18, 2020, 07:15:25 pm »
It wasn't planned, but the first person I came out to was my electrologist - CJ.

I knew getting rid of my facial hair would take a long time (three years and still working on it), and since I had some grey I knew I would have to see an electrologist. I called the closest one I could find and set up an appointment. When I walked in CJ greeted me rather gruffly, then invited me in to the treatment area and started explaining how electrolysis worked. Suddenly, she stopped talking and glared at me for a few seconds...

CJ: "OK, tell me the truth. Why do you want me to remove your beard, and don't tell me it's because you are tired of shaving!"

My first thought? Damn, there goes my answer. What can I tell her? I guess I'll just have to tell her the truth.

Me: Frightened, for the first time in my life I said the words out loud. I replied "I'm transgender."

CJ: "Oh, OK, then let's get to work!"

Later CJ told me that she doesn't like working on men. It seems they can't take the pain and won't stick with it, so it was a waste of her time. I was the first transgender client she ever prepped for surgery. I was also the first person she ever took all the way through transition. She retired about a month ago, but not before finding someone to take over her business who would provide the save level of compassion to everyone who needed electrolysis. CJ literally gave her electrolysis practice to Kris, who has already proved herself to be a worthy successor.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

[Devlyn]

Me: "Can I tell you something?"

My Bestie Tina: "Sure."

Me: Shows her a picture of myself dressed.

Tina: "Do you want some advice?"

Me: "YES!"

Tina: "Get rid of that wig, it makes you look like your mother, and I know you don't like her."

Me: "OK."

Tina: "Grow your own hair out, it grows like weeds anyway."

Me: "I call myself Tracey."

Tina: "You don't look like a Tracey."

The next day she named me Devlyn, which I immediately fell in love with.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sarah B]

Me: "Can I tell you something?"

My Bestie Tina: "Sure."

Me: Shows her a picture of myself dressed.

Tina: "Do you want some advice?"

Me: "YES!"

Tina: "Get rid of that wig, it makes you look like your mother, and I know you don't like her."

Me: "OK."

Tina: "Grow your own hair out, it grows like weeds anyway."

Me: "I call myself Tracey."

Tina: "You don't look like a Tracey."

The next day she named me Devlyn, which I immediately fell in love with.

Hugs, Devlyn

"You have been so told" by Tina

Laughing my head off.

Best wishes and a heartfelt hug
Sarah B

[Sarah B]

The following is a list of 'coming out' to people, but also not me explicitly saying so.

• My first doctor who treated my condition.  It was given he knew without me telling him.
• My two psychologist, they had referral letters.
• My two endocrinologists they had referral letters.
• My uncle outed me to my mum and Chinese whispers ensued.
• One doctor gynecologist GP and transgender specialist. I gave her a copy of my surgery letter.
• Two doctors which I voluntary told them verbally.

As you can see I'm not as private as you may think.  However, the list is short, if you discount family members and that's they way I like it.

Kind regards to one and all
Sarah B

[Gina P]

I had been seeing a therapist for depression. One day I just blurted out, its so hard to deal with everything including wanting to be a woman and my problems at home..... I just sort of squished it in to the middle of the sentence. He immediately said whoa lets back up what about.....? And he referred me to a therapist who specialized in GD. A few week latter I came out to my wife. And it began. The best decision I ever made. No more hiding or guilt.
Hugs Gina  

[D'Amalie]

My wife knew and participated in my underdressing for 5 years or more.  So, technically she was first? 

Then there was my aesthetician.  I shaved my legs underarms (and other places) for years, but when I discovered waxing, all bets were off!  Who knew how satisfying and confirming a Brazilian can be!  But I think the first was my new GP after I started using the VA for my full medical.  She noticed my undergarments and I haltingly explained, tearfully, I was trans.  Then it was easier after that. 

[EllenW]

It was my girlfriend, soon to be my wife of 40 years. When we were dating, I told her about me dressing up as a woman. We both honestly believed that my gender issues would go away once we were married. It never did, and I pushed it aside for decades out of love of my love for her.  Only when I could not continue denying who I was, she accepted it and even selected Ellen as my name.

Ellen

[Maid Marion]

My wife before we got married.
I was never under any pressure to suppress or hide it.

Marion

[big kim]

21 smashed out of my box on weed speed & beer I was drinking my troubles away when a guy at the bar said "Wow I thought you were a woman til you spoke" I told him I wanted to be one. We hooked up & had a fling for 2 weeks.

[KathyLauren]

My wife.  It took me a long time to work up the courage to tell her.  We are still together, 8 years later.

[TXSara]

It was my wife (ex-wife now).  I figured it out for myself, then told her within a couple weeks of that "epiphany" moment.  That wasn't something I wanted to be kept secret from her.

The marriage didn't survive my transition, but both of us gave it our best.

~Sara

[Stéphanie.FR]

My therapist too, after seeing her for four months. I was leaving for holidays the next week, and she told me at the end of the session she wanted to see me the next morning. And that morning, gathering my courage but stammering, I ended telling her I was dressing since I was 6yo... She softly smiled at me, telling me she asked me to come that morning because she had the feeling I had something real important to say I was struggling with. She requested then to see me twice a week. And here I am 20 years later, at the same point, having after constantly found ways to avoid to really work on my gender issues.

She is the only one I told yet.

Stéphanie, X X

[Kay226]

I told my wife early in our marriage that I felt like a woman inside and wanted to crossdress. She was accepting and supportive at the time. A few years ago, I had a personal awakening and part of that was that I was a transwoman. I told her about my awakening. We have had many deep talks and we are still together.

Kay

[D'Amalie]

I had been seeing a therapist for depression. One day I just blurted out, its so hard to deal with everything including wanting to be a woman and my problems at home..... I just sort of squished it in to the middle of the sentence. He immediately said whoa lets back up what about.....? And he referred me to a therapist who specialized in GD. A few week latter I came out to my wife. And it began. The best decision I ever made. No more hiding or guilt.
Hugs Gina 

You look great, dear!