I guess I am pretty much through transition by now, and my life has found a new 'normal'. I so envy people like Jessica who have managed to keep their relationships alive, as losing my wife was the most significant and painful result of transition. I managed to keep my home in the divorce, which has helped keep me grounded, though it cost me much of my retirement savings, so my financial situation is significantly different.
So I am alone, and lonely. I have to be more careful with my finances, and the stress of transition and divorce has created significant health problems. These health challenges also forced me to retire earlier than planned. But, I can get around without fear of harassment, I am comfortable in my living conditions, and I can pay my bills. I struggle to make new friends, as I guess I am not completely comfortable with my new role, and I am sick of explaining myself to people.
So, life goes by day after day, pay bills, go shopping, clean my house, all pretty normal, but not as good as my old normal....
Hugs,
Allie