Have to admit, the conversations you have during transition are really sometimes things you never would have dreamed of having before...
But let me get to that in a minute. First, some housekeeping.
Went to town hall and got my name change paperwork notarized. Went smoothly, and I think the notary was genuinely taken aback by seeing my driver's license photo ... which made me feel good, especially since I haven't shaved since Sunday (since I have electrolysis on Wednesday and I need a few days' growth).
Had coffee (or watched people have coffee) with my old boss afterwards. First time he'd seen me as "me"... He made a joke of not being able to find me when he entered, but after that, other than telling me he told one of his daughters about me and she said "she's so courageous"... and said she kept emphasizing the "she" because he was misgendering me (which I told him not to worry about, he'll get it), the rest of the time we just talked about him... like we always do.
Now to the weird conversation.
On the way home I called my youngest older sister. My sisters are the Three Bears - the middle sister is way too hot: she's always sending me links, telling me she wants to take me shopping, have my "colors done", etc etc etc... She's a lot.; The youngest loves me and is supportive, but she's from a Trump household and she always has questions and I think she just doesn't really understand this. Trying though. and my oldest sister is just right. She's works at a college - she's dealt with this. She's been nothing but supportive and normal.
Anyway, this chat was with the youngest. She said she was having lunch with the middle, who was already saying she has three sisters... and the youngest was struggling with it. She said to me "aren't you still my brother?" I told her that it's up to her... she can think of me by whichever term makes her feel better. There's no right or wrong.
She said she appreciated that, because she said she'd be comfortable being naked in front of the other two sisters, but not in front of me.
Ugh. 😂
"Look, I am 100% on board with that," I said. "Whatever you need to call me to keep your clothes on, I fully support. I didn't know that's what came with the word sister. But just so you know? I have zero interest in seeing any of your husbands with their pants off either. I don't want to see ANY of you naked - at all. As far as I'm concerned everyone remains dressed, how about that? And you call me whatever works for you."
"Ok, good," she said.
I wish I could say I exaggerated or made up even one tiny piece of that. Nope.
Love,
Allie
