This post is in response to TXSara being
publicly humiliated. You need to read it, to understand where I'm coming from.
I'm going to sound like a gramophone record that keeps on repeating oneself or until I'm blue in the face, but I have never belonged to any of these 'groups' (facebook, twitter, discord) or what ever group is associated with the one that showed disrespect to 'Sara' ever and I never will. Not that those groups were around in my time, think of the 1990's. I have never suffered anything like what most of the members of Susan's and others have suffered and I hope I never will, and given my circumstances, which I will write about below, you will know why, that will not ever happen.
I have remained in the woodwork or out in the suburbs, ever since my surgery, because I heard somehow about us women living in the suburbs or woodwork so to speak and to me that sounded like the "bees knees". However, one would like to put it, or to put it another way, not that I like saying, 'stealth' but, I have always been very deep deep stealth. Let me emphasise why I'm like this, you could say I'm obsessive, about this particular aspect of my life and you would not be wrong.
As people have read some of my posts, I tend to say, I'm a very private, shy, quite and maybe an introvert person. I have mellowed over the years, but that is just me changing with the times. In addition to this personality I never tell anyone about my condition, ever. This is why I have never suffered any consequences in relation to my condition.
Yes, I'm extremely lucky in the sense that I could pass straight away, when I changed my life around so that I could live the life that I now lead.
The one instance that you could say that cemented this behavior in my mind. I was working full time very early in my new life and I received a phone call at work and it was a call from a man, who was related to my previous swimming circle and was associated with a girl I was living with at the time. One of the things he said at the time on the phone was, "I will not out you" or very similar words.
Well that was it. I got a new drafting contract and I moved as soon as possible, I was also told by my uncle, who knew about me that this particular girl was a 'shark', as I said, I was very naive person in those days, but had enough sense. I knew I was quite capable of living by myself without anyone else's help.
This cemented I suppose how I was going to live my life, given my condition and the way society treated us at the time. I was never ever going to tell anyone whatsoever, about my past life ever. The only time I was ever going reveal my condition was either to a medical practitioner or partner, even then I would think twice about it.
I have had two partners in my life one knew and the other did not. However, I will in the future ensure my partner does know the truth about my past. The end result of this behaviour if you want to call it that. I have never had any trouble whatsoever in regards to my condition ever.
Yes, I understand the need to be honest with dear friends and I'm no different in a sense. I have a friend and when we get together we talk about everything under the sun. I have thoughts of telling her about my past or about my condition. I would love too. I have agonised over this issue, no end.
However, I still came to the conclusion that is best to let sleeping dogs lie. When I'm 80 or so, maybe then I will reveal myself to the world!
Everybody's journey is different I get that, but every time I hear or read the problems when one tells family and friends, breaks my heart no end, when they turn on you, disrespect you, put you down and myriad of other, similar comments, breaks my heart, it just reminds me, not to tell anyone ever.
I do jump for joy when you are accepted for who you are, and I must admit, I'm jealous of those stories. I would also like to be successful in telling others, but my instincts tell me otherwise and I shall remain silent in that case.
I'm just an oddity amongst us women who, will never ever tell anyone about my condition, I just cannot tell anyone, that's just me. Ever. Hence, for me and me only, I have a wonderful, happy and blissful life as a result.
Wishing everyone a wonderful future
Sarah B