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17 AMAB,dont know how to come out

Started by krivix, February 03, 2024, 07:23:35 PM

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Quote from: Oldandcreaky on February 06, 2024, 07:53:33 AMkrivix, if you spend time at Susan's reading our stories, you will find great range. For example, I played with other girls when I was young, wanted an Easy Bake oven, collected lacy, shiny, feminine things, cried easily and often, etc. And I prayed every night that I would awaken as a girl. Others here didn't realize they were trans until deep into adulthood. How about you? Is your one episode of cross-dressing the only time you stepped across the gender line?

Adding on to this, I always choose the girl characters in games/create a girl when I play games where you create your own. With those, I've always made them look like me but genderswapped,never out of "oh, she's attractive" and the last couple years, my halloween costume ideas have all been girl characters/costumes.
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Oldandcreaky

You should plumb yourself with a professional.
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krivix

Im honestly terrified of telling anyone close to me about coming out but the longer it is the worse I feel mentally. Any advice/coping methods youd suggest?
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Sarah B

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Hi Krivix

I hope you are well. Please be assured I  have been thinking about your situation even here in Australia (down under).  You are not alone and there are others here on Susan's who care for you in their own way, not physically, but in mind and spirit.

In regards to your therapy situation.  I did some research and I came across the following.

Do minors need parental consent for therapy in California?

The article and similar ones, basically say you do not need permission from your parents to seek therapy and they do not have to be told about your personal problem.  These articles are based upon Californian law.

Quote from: krivix on February 09, 2024, 12:56:44 PMIm honestly terrified of telling anyone close to me about coming out but the longer it is the worse I feel mentally. Any advice/coping methods youd suggest?

You have told us, that you are terrified of telling people around you and I can relate to this on a personal level.  Suffice to say that I never ever tell anyone about my 'medical condition' or in other words that I'm a 'transsexual' ever.  Even then I think twice about telling medical professionals, like you I'm terrified or scared of doing so.  Recently I needed a specialist and when I told them about my 'condition ' with my post operation surgery letter no less.  All my fears were a complete waste of time.

Which brings us to you possibly telling that teacher about yourself.  I would say go ahead, but keep in mind the following three points.

  • Make sure when you tell the teacher that nobody else is around that could over hear this private conversation.  The study hall does not sound very practical for this type of conversation.
  • Tell the teacher that what you are about to tell them must remain private and confidential and not tell anyone else about you.  This is paramount in you feeling safe and secure in your personal life
  • Only tell them if you feel comfortable in doung so.

Telling the teacher allows you to reveal yourself and your need to come out to someone.

Patience is the key to coping and the following may help you in coping:

  • Learn as much as you can about your personal problem which means a lot of reading.
  • Do activities that are female in nature that you can do, without anybody else knowing what you are doing. 
  • Think about what you want to do in the future and let us know, by telling us here at Susan's.
  • Tell us if you want, about the other issues you have in your life, if and only if you want to.
  • Most important thing of all, spend quality time with family and friends.

Remember patience is the key and what you want will come to fruition, if you work on it step by step. What you are learning now, has taken others and me included, years to learn about.

Take care and look after yourself.  I and others look forward to hearing from you again.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B


Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
Feb 1991 Surgery.

Northern Star Girl

@krivix    cc: @Sarah B
Dear Krivix:
Our member Sarah B provided a very informative and
helpful response to your questions regarding the personal difficulties that
you are encountering in your transition journey.

I fully agree with the comprehensive guidance that she is providing to you. 
Try to make a point to follow along with and to follow up on her suggestions.

Toward the end of her reply to you she shared an important rule:
              "Remember patience is the key"

As you feel comfortable sharing, please continue posting your updates so that you
can take advantage of the wide range of experience that your readers and followers
will wish to share with you.

Here on Susan's Place and the Forum we are all wishing you success and
happiness as you continue on.
HUGS, Danielle


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Sarah B

Hi Krivix

You mentioned in one of your posts that we can ask you questions and you said you will answer them if you can.  So without further ado here are a couple of questions from me:

  • Where does your user name Krivix come from?
  • Do you intend to do anything about the Life360 app on your phone?
  • What do you intend to study at college?
  • How long before you turn 18 years old?
  • Have you considered changing your name to a female one?. Yes or No answer is only needed.

If you can answer the above questions it would be very much appreciated.

Take care and look after yourself.

Best wishes and hugs
Sarah B
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
Feb 1991 Surgery.
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krivix

Quote from: Sarah B on February 10, 2024, 09:26:57 AMHi Krivix

You mentioned in one of your posts that we can ask you questions and you said you will answer them if you can.  So without further ado here are a couple of questions from me:

  • Where does your user name Krivix come from?
  • Do you intend to do anything about the Life360 app on your phone?
  • What do you intend to study at college?
  • How long before you turn 18 years old?
  • Have you considered changing your name to a female one?. Yes or No answer is only needed.

If you can answer the above questions it would be very much appreciated.

Take care and look after yourself.

Best wishes and hugs
Sarah B

1. Dungeons&Dragons preset name
2. I cant do much about it as of now.
3. Computer Science
4. I turn 18 in late July.
5. Yes
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krivix

Little Update:

I had my therapy session (they're virtual) so I didnt mention my dysphoria yet in worry my parents my hear me so I asked if there was a way for me to contact her privately and she said yes and sometime tomorrow or next week ill be able to text her 1on1.

Northern Star Girl

@krivix
It is good news that you reported....  I will be eagerly looking forward
to reading your update regarding your private meeting with your therapist....
I am wishing you well and that your meeting will be very productive in
helping you to get answers to your questions as you continue
in your journey.
HUGS, Danielle


Quote from: krivix on February 15, 2024, 04:30:27 PMLittle Update:

I had my therapy session (they're virtual) so I didnt mention my dysphoria yet in worry my parents my hear me so I asked if there was a way for me to contact her privately and she said yes and sometime tomorrow or next week ill be able to text her 1on1.
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  Aspiringperson is now Alaskan Danielle    
           I am the HUNTED PREY : Danielle's Chronicles    
                  A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles    
                             Danielle's Continuing Life Adventures
I started HRT March 2015 and
I've been Full-Time since December 2016.
I love living in a small town in Alaska
I am 44 years old and Single

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                             yahoo.com
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Sarah B

Hi Krivix

I'm so happy to hear from you again and you managed to be able to get a one on one conversation with your therapist.

I hope that the meeting will go well for you.  I also look forward to hearing how it goes.

Take care and look after yourself, remember we are here to help you if you need it.

Best Wishes and Hugs
Sarah B
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
Feb 1991 Surgery.
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krivix

Im hoping I get the text that lets me join the text line soon because its starting to worry me if it wont send. Worst case I wait till next thursday to say that.
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Sarah B

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Hi Krivix

Nice to hear from you again and I hope you are well.  I'm a little puzzled from what you posted:

Quote from: krivix on February 19, 2024, 10:59:17 PMIm hoping I get the text that lets me join the text line soon because its starting to worry me if it wont send. Worst case I wait till next thursday to say that.

Is that text line you are referring to in connection with talking to your therapist?

If that's not it, could you please explain it to me a little bit better.

You mentioned that you will be studying Computer Science, what is involved in that course?  I have a degree in Computer Systems so I'm interested in that area.

Look after yourself and let us know what happens.

Best Wishes and Hugs
Sarah B

Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
Feb 1991 Surgery.

krivix

The text line is relating to my therapist yes. Sorry for the confusion.
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