Post GRS Regrets

[Julie Marie]

Decide for yourself the type of impact this video will have.
Julie

[NicholeW.]

Another in a narrow line of people who have gone through the entire guide-lined process, used clinics, used doctors, used therapists and now say they need 'reimbursement' for lost 'manhood.'

It's always someone else's fault: a surgeon's, a psychologist's, their mother's. The one choice they never seem to alight on is 'their own.'

I think it impacts people who already believe we are 'mentally unbalanced.' I doubt it impacts transitioners at all, unless it 'tips' a balance for some legal ban. I imagine that is remote, at best.

N~

[Rachael]

oh get over it ..... is what i say... they wanted it, they said do it... surgeon was doing a serivce... you cant buy a car, use it, and then say, well, i dont want it, take it back at full price...
R

[bethzerosix]

people must take responsibilities for their own actions, period! no one held a gun to this guys head and made him have srs. 

i agree with renate :"Give me a paper to sign and I'll never sue you or regret it."

[tinkerbell]

Another non-transsexual person who followed his own agenda to get what he wanted for whatever reasons and then regreted it 

Do I feel sad?  NO! basically it comes down to this phrase:  You Get What You Deserve!

tink

[Sheila]

I didn't get to look at the you tube as I am in the stone age of computers. What I can detect with all of your comments, it's about a person who regrets haveing GRS. I feel sorry for this person and they were not taking their own responcibilities for themselves. There should have been a light bulb go off before the surgery sometime along the transition trail. I do understand that with younger people and some older, they get into these groups and that is what they want to do is change genders. It's fluid, right? Wrong, if you have surgery it will change you. Maybe not to your liking. I have known two such people over the years. Yes, they went to repudable surgeons, one Dr. Meltzer. Not his fault. This is why we have to have therapy and sometimes that doesn't work.
Sheila

[Hazumu]

I do so like that miraculous full beard.

My electro and I half-joke that hormone and surgery letters could be replaced by achieving a certain number of hours of electro - 50 hours gets you the hormone letter, 150~200 gets surgery certification.

Joking aside, without education, the public will see this story as fact, not as a rare anomaly or worse yet ruse.

Though rare, the Jerry Springer producers, fundies, and others who attempt to defend against the 'transsexual menace' will always be able to find (or manufacture) a regret case such as this that they can then use to defend their position.

Karen

[Dennis]

I think that there should be mandatory psychiatric counseling before marriage, the regret rate is a lot higher.

Renate

Hear hear. Nobody is talking about making marriage harder to get into (although I think it should be) or making a moral judgment about marriage, even though the regret rate is much higher and the consequences can also be irreversible, financially and emotionally. I'd rather have had to pass a psych eval before my last marriage. I'd have failed and not made that drastic mistake. Now I can't even blame a doctor for allowing me to get married, even though it wasn't right for me. Maybe I could sue the marriage commissioner

Dennis

[Steph]

I believe that this video has been discussed here before.  However, I find it amusing and at the same time very sad that the person seems to accept no blame or responsibility for himself, he blames others for the "Ultimate decision".

I think that this video goes along way to support the need for competent therapy and that just because some think they are TS, and that they are the best judge of what is best for them, it's not always the case.  Unfortunately we are not privy to what took place during this persons therapy sessions; was the client truthful or did he tell the therapist what he/she wanted to hear so that he could achieve their misguided goal; was the therapist in fact competent/qualified to make diagnosis with regard to transsexual issues.  Hopefully this information will be presented to a medical review board or what ever instrument they use.

Steph

[Dennis]

In this particular case, Alan Finch, he went through one assessment and was rejected for SRS. Then he went to a different assessor and modified his answers to fit the criteria. So he bears a significant amount of responsibility for a stupid decision imo.

Dennis

[Audrey]

I find it infuriating that this person refuses to take responsibility for his actions.  Thats all I have to say.

Audrey

[cindianna_jones]

When I first saw this video, I wondered about the beard as well.

I don't have anything to say about people who go through SRS... except this... it's your life and your decision.  Take your time and do the right thing the first time.

Cindi

[Ell]

I do so like that miraculous full beard.

Karen

yes, the beard is very strange...how would you explain it?

[bethzerosix]

transplants from the rear? rofl

[Dennis]

I do so like that miraculous full beard.

Karen

yes, the beard is very strange...how would you explain it?

He said he started hormones at 18, so he might not have had enough beard to bother with electrolysis. Or maybe T can awake some dormant hair cells, not sure how that worked. It is a bit of a scruffy beard for a 37 year old.

Dennis

[Keira]

If you've had full electro, T won't give a full beard.
I had electro a long time before HRT and had no beard at all,
once a year I had to remove with electro
about 10 fine slightly dark hair,
but that's all. That went on for 7 years.

Its possible that person had little hair at 18, though I'd be surprised
there was none if he has a full beard now.

For me, it sounds like he had SRS before electro, which many people
do, which I find a bit incredible but hey, its their lives.

[Rashelle]

The beard caught my eye also. Though I should point out in my case at 18 I didn't have facial hair. It wasn't until 20's that I even had some noticeable facial fur. In my 30's the fur was thick. I had a year of electro, and a year of laser on my face. So a couple hundred hours of electro at 2 hours a week plus having had it done at other times and sometimes 4 hours a week. I'm 40 and post op and still if I tried I could grow a full beard but not much of a moustache. Electro is high on my to do list needless to say once I'm financially stable again.
Rashelle

[Rachael]

For me, it sounds like he had SRS before electro, which many people
do, which I find a bit incredible but hey, its their lives.

its called rushing through demolishing safeguards because he thinks he knows best...
R

[tekla]

Our world if full of idiots (in America we call it congress).  But that's not the only deal.  Ask General Pickett if that charge was all that wise.  Ask the French at Agincourt if that was the best idea they ever came up with. Yeah, Edmund Hillary got fame and fortune by climbing Everest.  But if I could revive some of the bodies up there, they might well opt for a vacation on Miami Beach instead.  So, one person regrets it.  So what?

[Rachael]

the deal is, everytime someone rushes through transition, then regrets it, then _SUES_ the services who helped them. they make the whole process longer and slower for the rest of us to safeguard against such rushes... which just hurts more...
R