Hey there Helen - and welcome!
You've found a good place to meet like-minded people who will understand what you're going through, and be able to tell you about their journeys... which, while they will be unique to them, will give you some ideas maybe as to questions to ask and how to look at your own situation going forward.
Everyone here is always really willing to listen, and offer advice if you that's what you want... or just tell you all the millions of things we've done wrong or dozens of things we did ok on our paths, so maybe those will help you on yours. 😘
One thing I would definitely recommend? I can't tell you how many of us have really found it helpful to speak to a qualified gender therapist. Hopefully you have access to one or more in your area... otherwise there are some who are available via zoom.. it's all about who works for you, if you can get your insurance to cover (most can), etc.. etc..
But it's really something worth looking into. If you go to psycologytoday dot com they will have a list of therapists, and you can search by area, and speciality, insurance, etc... and that's a really good starting point.
Either way, glad to have you here and hope you find being a part of this community helpful!
Love,
Allie