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Started by Robbyv213, June 17, 2024, 03:07:56 PM

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Thanks @Lori Dee any and all facts for discussion/argument sake for increasing meds is always welcomed. lol..not that it would be an argument but a debate maybe at some point in the future. Lol

So far I feel that he is at least willing to be open to suggestions so far, even if it's a let's try this and then we'll try it your way kind of approach.
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Quote from: Robbyv213 on July 24, 2025, 09:57:35 AMSo far I feel that he is at least willing to be open to suggestions so far, even if it's a let's try this and then we'll try it your way kind of approach.

That is awesome. My last gynecologist was like that, too. When I explained why I felt something would be better for me and showed her studies to support an increase in dosage of progesterone, she agreed to try it. The labs and my symptoms showed that my suggestions were correct. She was very open to learning about what works and what doesn't because there are not many studies involving transgender patients. In every follow-up visit, she asked if the way we were trying things was something that I would recommend, and my answer was always YES!
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Robbyv213

Yea. Hopefully it goes well
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@Lori Dee did you have any case studies specifically that I could read up on just in case I need to reference them for my upcoming appointment on Monday.

I don't really have anything in mind now that I have my results back. I was planning to prepare for a too high test levels conversation.

That being said I would like to potentially see about finasteride since that helps fight dht and I'm trying to grow out my hair as long as I can.

And potentially asking about a higher dose for estrogen and or progesterone.

Every where I have read, they say estrogen in cis women levels are 30-400, where as MTF levels are only 100-200. And test levels for cis women are 15-70, while for MTF women levels should be below 55.

Granted I obviously want to be at a consistent range for optimal affects but obviously we won't know what that is until we go through some trial and error.

The things I'd like to talk about or are concerns are finasteride, if I need more of a anti androgen and if/when getting shots is next step. Continuing use of progesterone if another anti androgen is supplemented into the protocol, and or if at what point do we try to achieve high levels of estrogen to negate testosterone.

Concerns are feminizing affects, hair growth/loss, and potential side effects of adding specific anti androgen meds other than progesterone or estrogen and maintaining a feeling of good health (since the last time I was on Spiro I did not feel the greatest health wise)
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I had a ton of bookmarks for various studies, and for some reason, I can't find them now.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on July 24, 2025, 04:26:27 PMThat being said I would like to potentially see about finasteride since that helps fight dht and I'm trying to grow out my hair as long as I can.

Finasteride is a 5α-reductase inhibitor. 5α-reductase is an enzyme that converts testosterone into DHT. Finasteride blocks the conversion but, in doing so, increases free testosterone in the system and lowers progesterone. It is primarily used for treating prostate cancer, so in most cases, they are not concerned about it affecting progesterone in men. It is also a weak androgen blocker, like Spiro.

Leuprolide (Eligard) targets luteinizing hormone, which then shuts down testosterone production. Since it does this without messing with 5α-reductase, it doesn't mess with other hormones. By shutting down T production, lower levels happen, thus there is less to convert to DHT. Lower, but not zero.

Casodex (bicalutamide) blocks androgen receptors. It does not affect any hormones; it only blocks the receptors, making T ineffective. I noticed my hair growing back after taking Casodex for three months because the receptors in the scalp were being blocked.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on July 24, 2025, 04:26:27 PMAnd potentially asking about a higher dose for estrogen and or progesterone.

Every where I have read, they say estrogen in cis women levels are 30-400, where as MTF levels are only 100-200. And test levels for cis women are 15-70, while for MTF women levels should be below 55.

Those levels can even be further broken down into age groups. My Endo said she wanted my estradiol levels at 150. The 30 - 400 is a huge range and is for pre-menopausal women.

Medically normal estrogen levels are ranges that serve as guidelines:

Reproductive Years: Levels fluctuate during the menstrual cycle (from about 20 to 400 pg/mL)
Pregnancy: Levels rise to support fetal growth (depending on trimester, roughly 200 to 10,000 pg/mL)
Menopause: Levels significantly decrease (falling to approximately 20 pg/mL or less)


What they fail to realize is that we are not "pre-menopause", we are "pre-puberty". We are trying to get through puberty, so our levels should be in that range. In my opinion, being within the 200 - 300 range is okay, and my gynecologist agreed to try it.

The determining factor is not what number your labs say. What is important is how you feel, what symptoms you have. Doctors never cure anything. They are trained to treat the symptoms. So, if your symptoms are hot flashes, night sweats, and moodiness, the doctor will check the labs to see if your hormones are too low. Even if they seem to be ok on paper, your symptoms tell a different story, and perhaps an increase is needed.

In medicine and pharmacology, they use a term called the "Minimum Effective Dose". Medicine is prescribed in the smallest amounts to get the job done. They avoid increases (unless it's not effective) to avoid problems with higher doses. Avoid using the terms "high levels" with them. What they mean by high levels of estrogen means something different to us. High levels of anything to them signal danger.

After a year of estradiol, it is ok to start to increase your levels. Mine only went above 100 three times in four years, which is why I started researching and trying to teach my doctors what they forgot in medical school. ;D  My symptoms continued that entire time, and finally, we got my dose high enough to relieve my symptoms.

Quote from: Robbyv213 on July 24, 2025, 04:26:27 PMConcerns are feminizing affects, hair growth/loss, and potential side effects of adding specific anti androgen meds other than progesterone or estrogen and maintaining a feeling of good health (since the last time I was on Spiro I did not feel the greatest health wise)

I too had issues with Spiro, but toughed it out. It wasn't working, so they added Finasteride. Both are weak anti-androgens and not designed for our purposes. Why not get the right stuff that does what you want it to do? Since your T levels are low enough, I would not recommend the Eligard (leuprolide) injections.

Since you want to add something for hair, I would suggest Casodex (bicalutamide) tablets. They block the androgen receptors, do not affect hormone levels, and I have had success with it.

I hope this helps. This is all stuff I have learned over the years from reading a lot of studies. Hopefully, you have enough information here to speak with your doctor about what you want to accomplish and how you think you can do that. If any of this is unclear, Dr. Google is pretty good at finding answers, too.  ;D
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@Lori Dee thanks for the info, there's a lot of good stuff in it. I'll see read this right before my appointment.
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My Endo appointment went as expected. Since my levels are in "range" 100-200 for estrogen and bellow 50 for test, my Endo wants me to just keep doing what we're doing. Except now instead of meeting back up in 3 months he wants to see me in 6.

So yea. At this point he doesn't see the need to change anything. The next appointment will be an in person visit and not video. At which point we will discuss any potential changes based off of lab results taken and desired affects of hrt that currently have not happened yet so far, such as minimal breast growth.

Anyways thats the latest and greatest.

Robbyv213

I feel like my wife is at a boiling point. Not just with me and our relationship issues but life in general and other things going on.

I feel it's been just one thing or even multiple things all together or one after another and she doesn't get a break to reset. Between me transitioning, her own health issues, individuals in her family having health issues, and work life and social drama just never lets her catch her breath.

This morning she said if she didn't have kids she would just disappear and say screw everyone and everything.

The other morning the got upset with me bc I decided to get up and get ready vs sleeping in with her. Like she is just non stop crabby and aggravated all the time.

And it's hard to not feel bad knowing some of that is partially due to me and transitioning. While other things are out side of our control is what it is, but all of it just continues to pile up on her.

And our relationship seems to have become more professional than one between two lovers.

And I know I have my part to play and have my blame. It's hard to even want to be around her sometimes with how negative she always is or aggravates she always is.  Everyone in the house walks on eggshells around her. Which doesn't help.

I feel that all this is leading to a big explosive ending.
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I'm sorry to hear that, Robby.

While it is true that life can throw you a lot of curveballs all at once, none of it is your fault. You did not CHOOSE to be transgender. No one does. Yes, she has a lot going on right now, but you being you is not anyone's fault. Do not blame yourself. Just be there to support her the way you always have. That is what partners do.

As the old saying goes:

"It is difficult to remember when you are up to your ass in alligators that your mission was to drain the swamp."

Just be patient and supportive. This too shall pass.

Big Hugs!
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Robbyv213

@Lori Dee thanks. Always good advice

Lori Dee

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Yesterday at 04:47:59 PM@Lori Dee thanks. Always good advice

I care, and I just want to see you get through this. I know it will be rough, but I also know that the light at the end of the tunnel is not an oncoming train. You got this.  :)
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@Robbyv213    cc: @Lori

Dear Robby:
Lori is right, and she not the only one who cares for you
here on the Forum. 

Even though you have a good number of followers and readers, as usual
on any Blog, Topic or Thread, not everyone that reads what you post will
submit a reply unless they feel that they can contribute in a meaningful way.

The best thing you can do is as Lori suggested:

  "Just be there to support her the way you always have. That is what partners do."
and to keep posting and sometimes venting here on your Blog Thread. 
Talking it out to yourself and your followers is very good and beneficial therapy.

Please keep posting and sharing your experiences and thoughts here on your
Blog Thread and on the various Topics and Threads on the Forum.


Many HUGS,  ❤️❤️❤️
Danielle
[Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: Lori Dee on Yesterday at 04:54:41 PMI care, and I just want to see you get through this. I know it will be rough, but I also know that the light at the end of the tunnel is not an oncoming train. You got this.  :)

Quote from: Lori Dee on Yesterday at 03:54:01 PMI'm sorry to hear that, Robby.

While it is true that life can throw you a lot of curveballs all at once, none of it is your fault. You did not CHOOSE to be transgender. No one does. Yes, she has a lot going on right now, but you being you is not anyone's fault. Do not blame yourself. Just be there to support her the way you always have. That is what partners do.

As the old saying goes:

"It is difficult to remember when you are up to your ass in alligators that your mission was to drain the swamp."

Just be patient and supportive. This too shall pass.

Big Hugs!
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Robbyv213

Thanks @Northern Star Girl all the support from everyone is very much appreciated. Thank you all.

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Robby, there were many days I was certain that Susan would leave me. We slept in separate bedrooms for months.  I didn't just wait for things to get better on their own, I began to fix little things around the house that bothered her. The annoying faucet drip, the sticky cabinet, a balky oven door. I thought that if I could take care of enough of the small irritants, maybe the elephant in the room wouldn't seem so large. Gradually, she began to understand that I was becoming a better version of the person she fell in love with decades ago. Even now, if I ask her why she stayed with me, she replies 'because I love you'.

Give her time, and space, and always tell the truth -- as gently as possible. You can't control her decisions, but you may be able to let her see that you are becoming a better version of the person she married all those years ago.

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Robbyv213

I will give that a try.