Hello from Austria

[mmmm1234]

Hi! My name is Markus, I'm just a regular guy. I live in Austria. This year I've fallen in love with a trans-girl and luckily she with me. I signed up here to find more information about transgender people and maybe ask a few questions.

[Lori Dee]

@mmmm1234

Hello Markus,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

It looks like you are a new member here and this is one of your first posts. Thank you for your introduction! Just so you know, we have a whole section just for Significant Others where you can meet and read about others who have relationships just like yours.

We strive to make this a safe place to find information and to share your thoughts and comments. We all come from different backgrounds and represent a wide range of experiences. No matter who you may be, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.

We would like to get to know you. Once you feel comfortable here, please feel free to add to this post and tell us something more about you. Or if you prefer, post over in the Significant Others forum.

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@Sarah B
@Northern Star Girl

[Lilis]

Hi Markus, welcome to the community!

It's wonderful that you're taking the time to learn more about your partner and the transgender experience.

It's great to have you join us.

[gennee]

Hi MarkusHi Markus and welcome.

[Iztaccihuatl]

Hallo Markus,

Fellow Austrian here, although I have been living on the other side of the big pond for over 25 years.

It is great to hear that you are one of the few ones who didn't run away upon learning that your love is trans and that you want to learn more about her life experience!

Glad you joined!

Schöne Grüße,

Heidemarie

[Sarah B]

Hello Marcus

My name is Sarah B and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

Lori is right, you are a significant other and you are more than welcome to provide insights into your relationship with your partner and yourself.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Sarah B
Offical Greeter
@LoriDee
@Northern Star Girl
@mmmm1234

[Robbyv213]

Hello and welcome. You will find a lot of very helpful, and insightful people information here.

[mmmm1234]

Thanks for all the nice replies! I didn't expect that so many would already answer me in such a short time.

Since you're (maybe) interested, here is some basic background on me:
I've been in relationships with cis-women (not many) but never really happy. I was never married but I have children. After several difficult years in which I almost lost all my power and strength I thought it might be too early to give up my life and start all over again. I was very lucky and found a very nice trans-girl. Finally, I had someone to share all my feelings, wishes and desires with and she showed understanding. We're planning a new life together, though there are certain difficulties.

[Lori Dee]

Thank you for sharing, Markus.

I think that, as a community, we are more accepting because of the uncertainties and obstacles that we have faced. That helps us to see others are they truly are and help them as they need it.

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I love Austria. While in the military, I often toured Vienna and Salzburg. I found the people to be very friendly and the mountains so beautiful. I spent many summer weekends in Salzburg long ago. I would love to visit again someday.

[Carolina]

Oh, good luck Markus.  This may be the start of a really good period of life for you.  I hope so.  Caroline 

[Sarah B]

Hi Markus

I would suggest searching YouTube for various couples, especially Amanda and Shaye.  I hope you can work out the various issues that abound with your partner.

Take care and all the best for you and your partner in the future.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@mmmm1234

[mmmm1234]

I would suggest searching YouTube for various couples, especially Amanda and Shaye.  I hope you can work out the various issues that abound with your partner.

Will do, thank you!

[mmmm1234]

I love Austria. While in the military, I often toured Vienna and Salzburg. I found the people to be very friendly and the mountains so beautiful. I spent many summer weekends in Salzburg long ago. I would love to visit again someday.

Nice! The mountains are great, I love to be in the nature, too. I usually find the people not so friendly but maybe they try a little bit harder for tourists. ;-)

I always thought about going away from Austria but despite all the difficulties I came across here I haven't found yet a better place to live.

[mmmm1234]

Oh, good luck Markus.  This may be the start of a really good period of life for you.  I hope so.

I hope so, too! 
I'm more used to living alone. That's also one of the reasons of failed relationships: I demanded too much freedom. But with age I'm well aware that I cannot go on like this. But to give up my urge for freedom, I need someone like-minded who complements, supports, respects and understands me. It's somewhat difficult to explain but with cis-women I always felt they don't understand me of what I'm doing. And why I need to do it. Instead, I had to adapt to their wishes which didn't meet my interests. I don't want to generalize here. Maybe there's someone who thinks alike. I don't want to rule that out. But there are other aspects as well...

Oh, and by freedom I do not mean sexual liberty!!
Freedom for me is being in the nature, traveling, exploring, photography, ...

I surely hope that you're right. I'd like to think so.
But as always I have doubts. I don't like uncertainty. And I always like to have a plan for everything. It gives me structure.

What I'm basically looking for are role models. People who made it. Who can look back and say, yes, it was difficult but it was worth it.

[Lori Dee]

Oh, and by freedom I do not mean sexual liberty!!
Freedom for me is being in the nature, traveling, exploring, photography, ...

I surely hope that you're right. I'd like to think so.
But as always I have doubts. I don't like uncertainty. And I always like to have a plan for everything. It gives me structure.

What I'm basically looking for are role models. People who made it. Who can look back and say, yes, it was difficult but it was worth it.

I can so relate to this. I am the same way.
That is one of the reasons I am active here. We have so many members here who have "been there, done that" and they are happy to share their experiences, good and bad. If I could bottle up all the wisdom and compassion on these pages, I could buy Earth with enough money left over for a down payment on the Moon.