The thing about my brother-in-law is that a lot of things are dangerous. I figure that he has never been on roller skates because they are dangerous. And he considers himself to be so intelligent that others should do as he says. He once bought a motorcycle, sold it within months because it was too dangerous. I will admit that he had proof in the fact that 1 of my cousins died in an accident and another was brain damaged. I'm the one that did a road trip on a motorcycle, from Minnesota to Las Vegas. I once pulled off the road because a semi decided to pass another semi on a two lane highway.
I kind of got a lecture from him when he found out I broke both my wrists while skating. I now have permanent metal plates in my wrists. You could say I have built in wrist braces. To be honest, it was a wake up call, a kick in the rear of my pants, and it was a learning experience. To build on the experience of female nurses helping me use the toilet, Plus the fact later that the men's rest room was broken in a gas station, forcing me to use the women's rest room, it became easier to start using the women's rest room in stores.
Imagine the idea that I had a beard to signal that it was okay for me to be in the men's rest room. That would mean that I was aware that I looked very feminine. So, even while wearing men's clothes, I would get misgendered as female if clean shaven. I wrote someplace that I wondered if someone thought that I was a female trans male entering the men's rest room.
Before I confuse everybody, I am assigned male at birth. Even though I have not started hormone therapy yet, that thing between my legs has been very dysfunctional for at least a decade.
I have never been married, not even a chance that I have a child someplace. How did that go again, he's a boy, he's my friend, therefore he's my boyfriend. I think he saw it as we were just pals.
I am reminded of an old movie. In the movie one basket ball player finds another team member attractive. He is about to quit the team because he is homophobic. He then finds out that his team mate is the only female member on the team. The two become sexually involved. The press finds out about two team mates being together, and they are accused of being gay. I don't recall the end of the movie.
Now I begin to wonder if the bully in grade school really was a bully. I can ask the question, did I look feminine at the time, did he find me attractive because I looked feminine. He would chase me around the playground, and once he caught me, he would just sit on me.
Michelle
