the world views me as

[Theadore 1963]

Looking for a way to modify my presentation, wanting to lose the overly assertive, and fade into the background, but not become a wallflower.

[Lori Dee]

Looking for a way to modify my presentation, wanting to lose the overly assertive, and fade into the background, but not become a wallflower.

Hello Theadore,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you for registering to be a new member here. We have quite a few sections in this forum for tips and advice on all sorts of ways to accomplish just what you are looking for. If you click on the HOME button, you will see a list of all of our sub-forums that are grouped by topic.

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[Maid Marion]

I'd suggest people watching at fairs to see how people dress where you live.
Fair season is just starting up in New England.

[Sarah B]

Hello Theadore

My name is Sarah B and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

I'm unable to say how one can dress to reduce ones assertiveness, however with some help from chat gpt using the following phrase. "How can one reduce ones assertiveness in clothing ", should give you some help in that area.

Reducing assertiveness in clothing is about choosing pieces that convey a more subtle or subdued presence. Here are some tips to help achieve that:

• Opt for Neutral Colors: Choose colors like beige, gray, navy, and soft pastels. These tones are less likely to draw attention than bright or bold colors.
• Choose Simple Designs: Go for clothing with minimal patterns and details. Solid colors or very subtle patterns will give a more understated look.
• Select Classic Styles: Classic cuts and styles are often less attention-grabbing than trendy or avant-garde designs. Think tailored trousers, simple blouses, and modest dresses.
• Avoid Statement Pieces: Steer clear of clothing with large logos, flashy accessories, or distinctive elements that might stand out.
• Go for Looser Fits: Clothes that are too tight or form-fitting can sometimes come across as more assertive. Looser, relaxed fits tend to be more understated.
• Minimize Accessories: Simple jewelry or no accessories at all can help in achieving a less assertive look. Avoid chunky or eye-catching pieces.
• Opt for Soft Fabrics: Fabrics like cotton, linen, and soft knits are generally more subtle compared to shiny or stiff materials.
• Choose Subdued Footwear: Avoid high heels or shoes with bold designs. Opt for simple, comfortable shoes in neutral colors.
• Pay Attention to Fit: Ensure that your clothes are well-fitted but not overly tailored or structured. A more relaxed fit often feels less assertive.
• Keep Grooming Minimal: Simple hairstyles and minimal makeup can also contribute to a less assertive overall appearance.

The key is to feel comfortable and authentic while adjusting your clothing choices to project the desired level of assertiveness.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads especially in the Introduction Forum.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Sarah B
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@LoriDee
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@Theadore 1963

[ChrissyRyan]

Take this slow and safely, at your comfort level.

I always want to be out of the limelight.  Just blend in.


Chrissy

[TanyaG]

Looking for a way to modify my presentation, wanting to lose the overly assertive, and fade into the background, but not become a wallflower.

Sounds like you have a goal to work towards then, congrats ++ Have you thought about what areas of 'you' you want to modify, other than the assertion?