Life Of Michelle K

[Lilis]

The difference is trans + gender and trans + sex. So pre-op would be transgender, but post-op transsexual.

I see what you did there, and it's starting to make a little more sense. I still can't fully wrap my head around it, I'll keep trying base on this perspective, thanks though.

[Northern Star Girl]

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Transgender: an inclusive umbrella term which covers anyone who transcends their birth gender for any reason. This includes but is not limited to Androgynes, Crossdressers, Drag kings, Drag queens, Intersexuals, Transsexuals, and Transvestites.

Androgyne: An androgynous person

Androgynous: Being neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine, as in dress, appearance, or behavior.

Crossdresser: a person wears the clothing of the opposite gender, and has no desire to permanently change their sex. There is generally no sexual motivation for the cross-dressing.

Drag kings: performers, usually gay women or transgendered men - who dress in "drag," clothing associated with the male gender, usually highly exaggerated versions thereof. Drag kings often do drag to perform, singing or lip-syncing and dancing, participating in events such as gay pride parades, cabarets, discotheques, and other celebrations and venues.

Drag queens: performers, usually gay men or transgendered women - who dress in "drag," clothing associated with the female gender, usually highly exaggerated versions thereof. Drag queens often do drag to perform, singing or lip-syncing and dancing, participating in events such as gay pride parades, cabarets, discotheques, and other celebrations and venues.

Intersexual: a person born with the full or partial sex organs of both sexes; with underdeveloped or ambiguous sex organs; a sex chromosome karyotype other than XX or XY; or sex hormone receptor problems which prevent normal absorption of Estrogen or Androgens. Intersexual persons may seek to make their body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatments.

Non-Binary: A person whose gender identity is not exclusively masculine or feminine‍. A Non-Binary person may express a combination of masculinity and femininity, or neither, in their day to day gender expression. This is sometimes also known as Genderqueer.

Significant other: for the purpose of this site, someone close to a person who is transgender. This may be a mother, father, son, daughter, sister, brother, family member, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, or friend.

Transsexual: a person who is mentally one gender, but has the body of the other. They desire to live and be accepted as a member of the mental gender, this is generally accompanied by the strong desire to make their body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatments.

Transvestite: a person who wears the clothing of the opposite gender, and has no desire to permanently change their sex. There is generally a strong sexual motivation for the cross-dressing.

Other terms:

Post-Ops: Transsexuals who have had surgical procedures to make their body as congruent as possible with their preferred sex. For MTF transsexuals this is generally considered to be after Genital surgery (GRS, orchiectomy, and/or penectomy), for FTM transsexuals it is generally considered to be after top surgery.

Pre-ops: Transsexuals who desire to to make their body as congruent as possible with their preferred sex, but have not yet had the surgical procedures for whatever reason.

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[Lilis]

Thanks, Danielle! 💗




@Northern Star Girl

[Lori Dee]

I like those definitions better.
(I was trying to find them and got lost down a rabbit hole.  )

[Michelle_K]

I was thinking of freaking out my brother-in-law. When he found out I broke my wrists it was like that proved how unsafe skates were. Friday, while checking out an antique store, I found a pair of clamp on roller skates. I'm thinking of posting a photo on Facebook, with the caption, "finally found the proper sidewalk skates."

It isn't all that easy. Since they are clamp on skates, the shoe needs something to clamp onto. I think I failed to mention the roller skates from my childhood were clamp on skates.

I've been doing some research, and it looks like I might choose a fingerless leather gauntlet. I don't need much as I already have metal wrist braces in my wrists. I'm thinking of adding leather chest armor. for headgear, I have already ordered a ball-cap style plastic cap with chin strap. I have a couple of months to figure out the rest of it, unless I find some ice skates and an ice rink.
Michelle.

[Gina P]

I saw an ad on Facebook. It stated, "I am not transphobic, but I am not going to let some mentally ill person tell me what to do."

I'm trying to figure out what I might say to them. Should I remind them about Francis from the tv show, I've got a secret. Someone figured she wasn't behaving properly, and she got put into a mental institution. Later she got picked at random for a demonstration of a lobotomy. At least now she behaved properly even if she wasn't much better than a vegetable.

Many of the old tv shows depicted men in women's clothing as an oddity or for humor. It makes getting treated seriously hard, when these images are in many a heads. Mash, where Klinger was trying for a section 8, Benny Hill, even Carol Burnett had a few skits like that. There are many more. I think way back to the old days of movies where an actor would wear black face and make fun of black people. It was considered ok till society changed. We are in a period of change now, only the faces have changed. I'm sure in time much of it will work out in time. I see this as the final gasp of homophobia. Till then we must stand out ground and try to make other aware of our plight.

[MaryT]

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I shall carefully avoid using the word ->-bleeped-<-.  Oops!

I used to have roller skates but I could never even stand up in them.

[Michelle_K]

It seems my dad thought he was smart when it came to sex. According to him, the only reason for a man to wear a dress was for a sexual thrill. I wonder if he had experience. He didn't seem very observant. Somehow he got the idea his son was sexually active with a cousin. You know what? That sounds like it could be a story in a playboy magazine. So, instead of helping me with the chores, he was in the workshop, with his nose in a smut magazine.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

I thought I could download some sheet music, such as Patsy Cline. Free download sounded good to me, turned out I have a free download as long as I have a paid subscription.
Really the app for the phone is free, but you still need a paid subscription.

Sometime after my dad had died, my brother-in-law said something to me to the effect that I had no right to treat my dad the way I did. My brother-in-law went to psychology school, I guess he learned how to get what he wanted. It took thirty years, but the farm finally got sold, and he got the share he felt he deserved.

Back to having no right to treat someone the way they did. What about the way I was treated. I went into the military owing money on a car. I sent home 100 dollars every month. My mother made the payments on the car, while my dad pocketed the money I sent home. I had crashed my car while on leave, and my dad felt due to the circumstances that my mother had to pay for my other car, he would not cosign for a new car.
Then there was something about reimbursing my dad for the tuition for the trade school. That did not go over very good, it seems I paid my own tuition.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

I won a pair of roller skates like these in a raffle from a business in my hometown. I think I was a preteen. I used to skate up and down the aisle in the barn, the skate key hung from the shelf next to the radio in the kitchen.
Then one day the skates disappeared, which was strange since nobody had gone into my room and taken them. The obvious answer was that I never had the skates in the first place.
It was later that I walked into my dad's workshop where he was entertaining some friends. He showed his friends the roller skates he had won in a raffle when he was a child, and told them how he would roller skate up and down the sidewalk in front of his house. He still has the skate key and it hangs from the shelf next to the radio in the kitchen.
Everyone knows how honest my dad is, and if he says he won the skates then it is the truth.

Twenty years later maybe, I said something to my mother about it. She informed me that my dad never had any roller skates when he was a child.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

I don't know if I ever mentioned that at the local garbage dump, jewelry could be found. There was a rack of drawers in the workshop and one drawer had a small purse filled with jewelry, along with old compacts and lipstick tubes. I might wonder how much jewelry I found and contributed to the stash.

I don't know all that much about psychology, as far as I know, the big doll, the paper dolls and the jewelry were never brought out in front of the guys. So there was something different about the girl stuff. He may not have had any claim on them.

I may get into some speculative theories here. One being that none of this belonged to my sisters. Obviously, it belonged to a special girl. Her toys are her so obviously she never died.

I don't know if this happens, a living child gets substituted for a child that has died. The parent becomes convinced that the living child is proof that the child has not died. I play with the jewelry all that I want because the jewelry is mine.
I listen to the story of how his ball ended up in a shed he was not to enter.
I heard the story of how my uncle lost his eye.
then the story every noon he got locked out of the house while his parents climbed back into bed for a bit of fun.
I also heard the story of how his dad lost his fingers.

My dad did carry a purse that had been repurposed for carrying a movie camera.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

More speculation. This time look into a situation where the younger sister considers her older brother to be an embarrassment. This has to do with a fold-able fruit basket. Folded just right it becomes a crown.
My sister comes along and informs me that a friend is putting on a play and would like to borrow my crown. I decide to allow it. A week later I ask about my crown and I get informed that the girl decided to keep my crown, and that I really did not need it.
Since I was not told the name of the friend or the name of the play, or heard from anybody else about any play, I think I can assume the whole thing was to get the crown away from me. That likely it went into a school garbage can.

As for the cord organ and the piano, My sister informs me that I am not allowed near them, in effect they are only for the girls. More than that, My other sisters will have to come to her for any help playing the keyboard.

Perhaps the most telling is the tv incident, where we sit down to watch tv. Right away my sister starts jabbing me in the ribs with her finger. I move off the sofa onto the floor, she has moved with me and continues to jab me. Finally I say stop, and I immediately get sent to the kitchen for making noises.
I get told that if I can be quiet I can return to watch tv. My sister's look is don't you dare. You are not to be part of my family.

Since we went from playing with paper dolls together to me hiding my paper dolls in the basement ceiling joists, something had to have happened. Maybe it was my sister laying down the rules. I was not to play with them anymore, but I was needed to cutout the new doll clothes as I was the only one allowed to operate the scissors. Perhaps my dad never did find my paper dolls, maybe they were given to him. The possibility that my sister spied on me to see what I was doing in the basement, and she made sure the paper dolls disappeared.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

I had to do a search to find the term. Replacement Child Syndrome. The therapist couldn't understand it when I said I was competing with a ghost. She died as an infant. She has a blank slate, my dad decides this is what she would have become. She would have been the ideal daughter. And then the challenge, If she could do this, then there is no reason you can't do this. My dad's ideal daughter listened to his stories as she wiped the dust off of the workbench, swept the floor, or polished the cartridge shells. His identity lost somewhere as he is forced to take on the identity of his dead sister. He has become an emotional crutch for his parents.  Yes, I have referred to myself using her name.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

I did post that photo on Facebook. I think my sister showed her disapproval with an emoji. I'm trying to figure out when the last time was that I had roller skated in the barn. I know I was an adult wearing skates with black boots. It would have been just like mom to decide to clean out the basement and a bunch of boxes had to go to the barn. The purpose was not to clean out the basement, the purpose was to stop me from roller skating. She decided it was too dangerous and I was too old to roller skate.

When I am posting is several different places, it gets a bit difficult to remember what got posted where. I think I posted someplace that after my dad's death I printed out a bunch of perfect attendance certificates and put the in my dad's desk. I had even once tried to make a profile of her, favorite music, etc. Using my dad as the model, his favorites would become her favorites.

As far as the radio was concerned, that was his radio, and you listen to his radio station. None of the kids have their own radios. During the week, we will listen to country music, on Sunday there is a program on another station called Polka Party. Rock and Roll? Never heard of it. Except at some point all these artists started showing up on tv. Captain and Tennille, Sony and Cher, and a few others.
The point is, if all I hear is country music, then country music becomes my favorite by default.
Then there were the accordion lessons, and the songs will be waltzes.

When I get done making the profile of my sister, I find that the profile fits me.

I need to learn more about this replacement child syndrome. Apparently grandparents can also suffer the loss and lean towards the replacement child. Maybe one result being my fingers going into the washing machine wringer, as I helped my grandma wash clothes.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

A bit rough today. Get up a couple hours earlier than normal. Driving east towards the sun and the road is ice. The one round-a-bout was a bit strange and caught me off guard, it is a bit away from the main road. Did I mention a 2 hour drive and I didn't have time to eat. Then I missed my exit from the freeway and ended up on the wrong side of the river. I managed to find a way to get turned around, and then took the wrong exit. I was on the proper side of the river, and found river road. I then realized my phone knew a trick. Looked up the phone number, and since I put in the address, I could use the map. Followed river road until it showed my turn and made it to my appointment.

Afterwards made my way back to the freeway, took the 55 exit. Realized it was east and I wanted west. Got turned around and made my way back to the freeway. Finally found the proper exit, and headed towards Buffalo, MN. In Buffalo I found an Arby's and got me a sandwich, and then headed home.
Michelle

[Lori Dee]

That sounds like quite the road trip!

Glad you made it home safely.

[Lilis]

I then realized my phone knew a trick. Looked up the phone number, and since I put in the address, I could use the map.

Yeah, just pair it with your vehicle's Bluetooth and follow the directions.

I hardly ever get lost these days, but because of that, when people ask me for directions, I can't help, I barely even know how I got to my destination. 😵


~ Lilis

[Michelle_K]

I bought a wind up pendulum clock. I had a lot of trouble trying to get it to run, so I gave up and set it on the floor by my exercise bike. Today I decided I would put it on top of the faerie cage, and put a CD under one side to make it look level. The clock has decided to run and it chimes the hour.

At my appointment, I was having trouble talking and getting throat pain. Then something happened and the pain disappeared. I don't know if I had found the proper pitch and then could talk without pain, or if I had pushed the adams apple back into the proper position. Did I mention someone was fooling around on a school bus and I got hit in the throat.
Michelle

[Michelle_K]

Sometime my thoughts get a little strange. I remember a member of the group Kiss had a long tongue. It has been so long ago that I've forgotten how long it was. Out of curiosity I decided to check it out. That is a long tongue.

There are a few medical problems that it causes such as biting the tongue while trying to eat. When talking it becomes a problem of trying to spit out the words that get caught between the tongue and the teeth. Something I had not even considered was the tongue actually blocking the airway, forcing breathing through the mouth.

Then comes the realization that the photo does not show concentration. The photo of me at 3 years old with my tongue hanging out, shows that my tongue is too long. Looking at the photo of me at one year old shows that even then I had to breath through my mouth. Thinking now that no amount of punishment was going to get me to chew my food with my mouth closed, especially since i could not breath with my mouth closed.

I was in the bathroom when I stuck out my tongue and saw that I could almost touch the bottom of my chin.
I had tried something yesterday with a mask, to see if it would help on my walk. Although it wasn't that cold, it did seem to help warm the air a little while breathing through my mouth. The biggest problem was fogging up my glasses. Need to try some anti fog spray.
Michelle 

[Michelle_K]

First off, I am physically at a disadvantage due to a hormone imbalance during puberty. That means I am more feminine than masculine when it comes to strength. So in a archery competition, I do not have the strength to draw the bow string like a man would have. Depending on how much they might want to push it, I would not be allowed in the women's competition. Too many variables, such as bow length, draw weight, arrow weight.

Next look is the horse shoe pitch. The posts are 40 feet apart, the men's foul line at 37 feet. That's fine, I can do that. My brother-in-laws use brute force in pitching horse shoes, and change the rules. They decide the foul line is 40 feet. 3 feet more distance means I drop 3 feet in front of the stake. Their style means it slides to the stake.
According to the rules, as a senior citizen, I get a 27 foot foul line.

I'm not really interested in any competition for the archery or horse shoes, but it looks like I have to sign up for tournaments just to practice.
Michelle