Thank you again for your kind words in your private message to me earlier.
And thank you for trusting us with all of this. It takes real courage to come back after a long time and lay out what the last few years have been like. I'm so sorry for how much was piled on after your accident. Transition can bring relief, but it isn't a shield against life—losing health, stability, and relationships all at once is more than anyone should have to carry.
None of what you went through "makes sense." When we're hurting, the people who love us should show up more, not less. You had every right to expect care and steadiness. Their withdrawal was not your fault—and it was inexcusable. On top of that, you were navigating a catastrophic event and a system that moves slowly; that would grind down even the most resilient. Being outed without your consent is not okay. You deserve full control over whether and when you share your story. How others treat you says everything about them—and absolutely nothing about you or your worth.
You also get to have complicated feelings about transition and about where life is right now. Many of us have chapters that don't look like the happy highlight reels, and it can feel like there's no place to fit. You're not alone in that. Respect should go both ways; it's exhausting when it doesn't. Wanting distance to protect your peace is understandable.
I hear how disorienting your daughter's move feels. I'm glad you still have each other—that thread matters. If and when you want to talk through options for where to go next, housing ideas, or how to set boundaries with people around you, this community can sit with you and think it through. We can also just listen while you vent. There's no one "right" timeline here.
I'm really glad you're here today. Surviving what you've survived is no small thing. Reaching out and putting words to this is a big step forward. Naming what you're going through turns a blur into concrete steps you can tackle one at a time to steadily improve your situation. Keep posting if you can. You don't have to figure everything out at once, and you don't have to do it alone.
