Hi Cerys,
Welcome to Susan's Place, and thank you for such an open introduction. Naming yourself—saying "I am Cerys"—often brings real relief, because the secret no longer lives only in your mind. Holding that truth inside for decades is exhausting; speaking it aloud can ease the weight and, at the same time, stir understandable nerves about what possibilities the future might hold—especially when you love your partner and want to protect your home life.
It's encouraging that your partner is relatively understanding and that you've begun counselling. A counsellor with experience in gender issues—the right counsellor for you—can give you space to sort through feelings, fears, and options at a pace that feels safe. Many of us find it helpful to focus first on easing distress and building honest communication rather than trying to decide everything at once. Some people prefer to do individual work for a while before inviting a partner into sessions; others find a joint session helpful sooner. Either way, you get to choose what feels supportive.
You'll find many people here who recognize the path you're on, including members in the UK. Use this space to talk things through, ask questions, and breathe. Whether you're seeking practical perspective, emotional support, or simply a place where you can be Cerys openly, this community is here for you.
There's no timetable you must meet and no single "right" outcome to chase. You control the pace and the privacy of what you share. Your journey is yours, and you're welcome here in exploration as you find what brings you peace.
I'm glad you're with us, Cerys. You are not alone.
— Susan
