Feministe"Jacobs is just a particularly forthright example of how many of these "panic defenses" aren't really about panicking when you find out your date is trans.
They're about the fear that someone else is going to find out you were with a ->-bleeped-<-. I think sometimes we're quick to assume that homophobia and transphobia always work in this straightforward "hate the queers, bash the ->-bleeped-<-s" kind of way — the sort of hate crime that Budd describes a few paragraphs later:"