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Would you take the normal pill?

Started by shanetastic, March 07, 2008, 02:37:55 AM

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Would you take the "normal" pill assuming you would have to live in your biological sex?

Yes - I am pre Transition
14 (8%)
Yes - I am currently transitioning
18 (10.3%)
Yes - I am post transition
3 (1.7%)
No - I am pre transition
47 (27%)
No - I am currently transitioning
48 (27.6%)
No - I am post transition
30 (17.2%)
Unsure
14 (8%)

Total Members Voted: 120

KarlMars

I would like to be a normal cis gender male, which I believe I was before I reincarnated as female for whatever reason. If I had been born a cis gender male I may not have the understanding of a transgender person.

KarlMars

Quote from: alienbodybuilder on July 04, 2016, 05:31:26 PM
I would like to be a normal cis gender male, which I believe I was before I reincarnated as female for whatever reason. If I had been born a cis gender male I may not have the understanding of a transgender person.

So I'll try to be as normal as I can as a trans male. Eventually I want to be stealthy about having transitioned years later if I move somewhere else.

JayceeTG

Normal doesn't exist and is just a fairy tale. Do I wish that I wasn't a Transgender Woman? Not really, I mean I wish it was easier for me to be honest with other people about it and to transition and to start the path to becoming the real me but it is what it is.
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becky.rw

A normal pill would have to go back and rewrite an entire childhood of not being able to connect with others of my assigned gender as comrades, and in the process of rewriting...  I would cease to exist.    The body would work, but it'd be run by some other guy who knew how to be a guy.

And then of course, he'd wake up in this house.. open his mouth and say something masculine, and my SO would shoot him, and then he'd be dead too!   lol.
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Kylo

On second thoughts... imagining myself normal is like imagining myself dead.

Everything I am now, is a result of the conflict and problems faced... and I like who I am at this point. That wasn't always the case and I went through hell to get there but I'm happy with who I became despite the struggle.

One thing that came out of it is a desire to do better and to try harder. It's pretty much insatiable. I know if I was completely comfortable that drive would be gone, and so too would be the results of it. What kind of a person would I be? I haven't a clue, but it would not be me.

So no, I wouldn't take the normal pill
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Ryuichi13

Post- transition, male 24/7, planning top surgery.

No way would I take the normal pill.

Despite the trouble I've had throughout my life, being a transman is what made me the man I am today, even back when I didn't know there were more like me, or even what I was called.

Normal is boring!

Ryuichi

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Corax

,,No - I am currently transitioning"

If it were to change my brain and my personality and would adjust it to that awful body as described in the opening post – Hell no! Never ever!  I wouldn't want that. I wouldn't want to be a cis-woman; I'd much rather stay a trans-male then, thanks.

If it however were to change me into a cis-male instead, meaning leaving my brain how it is and changing the body - Definitely yes! Where can I get that pill because I want it right here right now? ;) It would spare me a lot of pain and surgeries as well!
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Devlyn

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SeptagonScars

I didn't pick an option in the poll, cause none fits my situation, so I'll just write a reply instead. But to follow your structure of options, my answer would be "Yes - detransitioning".

And no, I don't think that's necessarily an obvious answer just because I'm detransing. I'm sure many detransitioned people would not undo having transitioned if they could. But I can't speak for them.

I thought about this during my transition, in which I lived fulltime from the moment I came out, then eventually went on hrt and had top surgery. It has been referred to as many things, the idea of such a pill, my favourite being "the cis pill" but it's essentially the same thing. Back then, I always answered "no" to if it would make me happy with my female bio sex, but "yes" if it would make me a cis male. I thought such a change would somehow turn me into a different person if it would make my mind female. Now I wonder about that, and I wonder just how female my brain really is.

I think maybe I took the "normal pill" in a sense. Well turns out I am a cis woman. And getting the realisation that I suddenly wanted to be and live as a woman again, and suddenly being fine with my female body traits, after a lifetime of having been dysphoric about them and wanting to live as a man... it's strange. And sad. Especially because I had already transitioned, so now I have to detransition to be truly fine with my body. I feel like a broken female now. I was complete once, but I didn't know it, so I threw it away. And I'm agonising over that now.

But if I could go back in time and never have transitioned in the first place, and always have been fine with being female and always thought of myself as a girl/woman, like I do now... I'd take that pill so fast. If I could have my natural body back, I'd be whole again, which I now may not ever become. I'll still try though.

As for the personality thing, I'm still the same person now as I was when I was dysphoric and thought of myself as a man. Only difference really, was the labels/terms I used for my gender and sexuality, the pronouns I attached to myself, the name I went by, which parts of my body I liked or disliked, and my style to some degree. But everything that's actually me, as a person... is the same darn mess. I recognise my brain just fine. The differences are minute, and insignificant to the full picture. So knowing that now, I would have spared myself the pain of an unnecessary transition if it was possible.

Sure I learned a lot of invaluable things from having gone through all that, and maybe I'm too newly out from the detransing closet to know if I'd truly want it all undone if that was possible, or treasure it as an important part of my past... but man, this is really painful. I don't know if I've even actually been through anything worse. It's a very long-lasting, drawn-out, constant pain that I can't possibly escape, it's a grief unlike anything I've ever felt before. Maybe I just said that I've been through worse before, to comfort myself. Well, at least I know how to survive through hardship: with tea and dark humour.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
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Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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CynthiaAnn

I replied "no, already transitioned" to the normal pill question. Don't need normal, I like my uniqueness, and the reality and outcome I've realized today, no need to worry about "what could have been" at this stage. I was probably female in a past life, too many imprints and too much deja vu.....

Interesting topic to read

Cynthia -
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JudiBlueEyes

Me too, and I wouldn't change back for the world.  Yes its been a hard road to travel but who's life is easy?  I love who I am now.  Real.
But now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
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Lady Sarah

Here's the deal. If I could have been normal before I started school, I might have been ok with it. I grew up abnormal because of being transgender, and there was no turning the clock (Or calendar) back. Growing up the way I was, there was no way I could blend in anywhere. The 1970s and 1980s created plenty of traumatic experiences. Becoming who I was supposed to be was the only solution.
started HRT: July 13, 1991
orchi: December 23, 1994
trach shave: November, 1998
married: August 16, 2015
Back surgery: October 20, 2016
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ChrissyRyan

Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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