Hello!
Sorry I'm late! Welcome to Susan's!
I'm Kelly, the SO of Jocelyn (pre-op MtF). I'm glad to learn that there are other people like me out there! When I first joined, I didn't think I had anything in common with the other SO's besides having a transgendered partner. Basically, I knew about Jocelyn being TS before we started dating (it makes things a heck of a lot easier, believe me!) so most of my support needs involve the reactions of family, friends, and the general public rather than my own feelings about her condition.
Congratulations on your progress in your relationship. My only advice to you as far as dealing with the other people in your life, just give them time and space to sort out their real feelings (which may be different than their original reaction) You have very little control over the attitudes of others, but you have complete control over your own. If it someone that is important to you, make sure you let them know that they are important to you and that you are willingly to discuss any questions or problems openly. When you do, make sure it is in a calm manner and don't lash out in anger (as difficult as that may be). People won't listen if you raise your voice and won't hear what you're really saying if you become defensive and start throwing insults back at them. Refer them to as many informative resources possible (in the hope that they actually use them) and then wait and see. They may come around yet.
I try to be on here as much as possible, but I know I have large gaps of activity on here. If you ever want to e-mail or send me a PM, feel free to do so.
~Angelsgirl
