Hi Everyone!

[raven]

Hey,

Thought I would take a moment to write an introduction.    I actually found this site over a year ago.  I was active for several months but then due to circumstances I became inactive. 

I am 39 year old MtF TS.  I have been seeing for a year and half.  She recomended that I have a heart to heart talk with my wife.  That didn't go so well, but eventually it seem to turn around.  She took an interest help me get some clothes did my hair and make-up a couple of times.

I have  a son who is grown up and left home and my wife has 3 daughters that have also moved out.

I have been married to my wife for almost 8 years.  We did talk about my TS before we got married however she wasn't paying attention or didn't want to believe this.

I live in Washington State.

And currently my wife is angry with me about being TS.  I guess it happens that support from spouses can come and go.

Thanks for everyone here

[Sarah Louise]

Welcome back Raven, I seem to remember seeing your name in the past.

Glad your hear again and still moving forward.  Hopefully your wife will come around.

Sarah L.

[Louise]

Welcome back, raven.  It is hard for a wife to face the prospect of losing her husband.  I am a CD.  My wife is very supportive of me as long as I do not push the envelope too far towards being more feminine.  As much as we love one another, I do not think she would be able to support me were I to transition to a more feminine stage.  Are you transitioning or do you have any immediate plans to do so?  It is one thing to deal with a future possibility; it is another to deal with a present reality.

[NightAngel]

Welcome back Raven!

It's nice to see that old members coming back to this site.
I hope that your wife will understand you sooner or later and that you can continue with transition.

wish you all the luck,

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Michelle

[Robyn]

Welcome, Raven. 

My husband and I live in WA, too.   West of Seattle.  (Except that I'm back in VA on a Navy project, again, for several more months.) If you're near there, you've probably heard of the Ingersoll Gender Center,  Emerald City, and the annual Esprit Conference, which begins tomorrow, in Port Angeles.   And there is Papillon in Spokane.

[raven]

Thank you everyone.

To Sarah I remember a Sarah once who at times went by Chi.  I don't know if that is you.

Yes I have heard of Ingersoll and Emerald city and Esprit.  I keep wanting to go one of those, but they are a bit far from me.  I am out near shelton.   I have attended one meeting of GASS in Tacoma, but I am having a hard time feeling like it is really ok from my wife.  She says it is ok when we talk about it but then when a meeting night comes around she has other plans or doesn't want me to spend the money for gasoline.

As for Transitioning.  No I am not.  It even isn't really ok for me to go out enfemne but I have done so occasionally,  She only knows about once that I told when I went to my gender therapist.   She really didn't like me going to see her so I am seeing another therapist that doesn't have any training or exp with TS TG or CD but is very supportive.  I have gone to her office enfemne a few times.

I know that the hormones are going to change me.  I have no idea how that is going to be taken.  My wife imagines changes already all the time and I have only been on them for a month.  I am really getting to the point where I don't want to wear shorts or be seen without clothes around her because I don't like the comments.  She went to my Gender therapist once and they talked about me starting hormones so I did.   Now the guilt and such is hard but have to be true to myself.

[Robyn]

I know (knew) a trans couple in Shelton but haven't talked with them since I stopped my Esprit Conference work due to east coast work assignments a few years back .  They may be involved still.  The conference is this week in Port Angeles and has a great couples/SO track.  You and your wife may want to look into it for a year from now. 

There is a gender conference in Seattle over Labor Day weekend, but it is primarily for FTMs.

Kitsap County has OutKitsap and OutWestSound.  Not sure about your county.

Robyn
North of you

[Melissa]

Hi, I live in Washington too and also had been with my spouse 8 years when I came out.  She completely understands what being transsexual is about (short of having it herself), so anger is not an issue.  However, we are not going to stay married because of personality differences.  I hope it ends up working out for you.  Just remember that this is something that has affected you all your life and it's not your fault that your TS.

Melissa