I wouldn't be so hard on your mother, she was only doing what she thought was right. Afterall, the doctors were all telling her what she should do and they didn't know. It was a 50/50 shot and they missed. Just be patient with you mom and try to educate her. She is probably on a real bad guilt trip and doesn't know what to do. All the doctors told her that if you raise you baby to be a boy or girl, that's what they will be. We all know different now and so do a lot of doctors, not all. So, don't blame her.
Sheila