How did/do you feel when you dressed up....

[lostandconfused]

How did/do you feel when you crossdressed, or for the transitioned, dressed up. Is it a sexual feeling, or kidding a warm fizzy feeling inside? Please say if you're transitioned or not...

[NickSister]

I just feel 'better' somehow. Like it should be the status quo. Sometimes I get excited which is accompanied by some arousal - I think this is more a result of feeling good but I would also admit experiencing some autogynophilia. My male clothes generally feel anything from wrong to neutral depending on how masculinised they are.

[Pockubus]

At first a long time a go it was kind of a fetishy sexual arousal thing, but that went away rather quickly for me.  Now when I dress up, put on make up and such, it totally is this warm fuzzy zen kinda feeling.  Like, this is how it was supposed to be all along!  Even when I'm doing things like boring chores, I feel at peace with myself as long as I'm dressed up.  Wheras before I'd always rush through real life things like that so I could have more time for escapist activities.  Its amazing just what changing clothes can do for a transgendered person.

[monica_mis]

it seems i feel more relaxed, more comfortable, like the way it is suppose to be....

[Just Mandy]

Dressing never did anything for me, other than I MUCH prefer female clothing styles. But I
have not and really don't see myself ever wearing real dressy clothes... it's not my style.

Making my body more feminine through shaving, etc was magical even though my shape was still male
it was a start.

Seeing myself for the first time after a professional makeup session was an even more magical, powerful,
emotional experience I'll never forget. It was not sexual... I was finally me and a
wave of "this is so right" filled me.

I've not transistioned.

Amanda

[lostandconfused]

At first a long time a go it was kind of a fetishy sexual arousal thing, but that went away rather quickly for me.  Now when I dress up, put on make up and such, it totally is this warm fuzzy zen kinda feeling.  Like, this is how it was supposed to be all along!  Even when I'm doing things like boring chores, I feel at peace with myself as long as I'm dressed up.  Wheras before I'd always rush through real life things like that so I could have more time for escapist activities.  Its amazing just what changing clothes can do for a transgendered person.

Yessss that is me. Although I donno if this would be a good gauge on wither I should transition...

[NickSister]

Yessss that is me. Although I donno if this would be a good gauge on wither I should transition...

My feeling is that you are not considering this deeply enough. I think this is a real bad way to gauge whether you should transition. While I don't entirely agree with the idea that it has to be a do or die situation I do agree that transition is serious serious business. The amount of effort, the pain and descrimination, loss of relationships and financial costs to get there is not something you do just because it feels good in women's clothing. You do it because that's who you are and that is what you have to do to be 'alive'.

My advice is if there is any doubt explore all non drastic options first. See a councilor, cross dress regulalry - try it out full time for a week and see how it feels afterwards, talk about it, read about it...

[lostandconfused]

Yeah, if only my parents weren't so against it. I want to at least block puberty to buy more time... that and the thought that slowly becoming less androgynous and more masculine everyday is enough to make me curl up and cry... but I'm used to suppressing it with my parents and all
/totally out of place on this thread.

[Pockubus]

Yeah, if only my parents weren't so against it. I want to at least block puberty to buy more time... that and the thought that slowly becoming less androgynous and more masculine everyday is enough to make me curl up and cry... but I'm used to suppressing it with my parents and all
/totally out of place on this thread.

My parents were really against any form of gender nonconformity too.  I suppressed it too and tried to become the boy that they wanted.  I really wish I had the guts to have come out officially back then and stuff.  But its definately a tricky thing, especially if you fear any kind of retalition.  Is there any way you could see a counselor about this without your parents knowing?

[Boo]

It always felt 'right' and natural to me.  I would say 'warm and fuzzy'.

[tony]

when i first started i thought it might be sexual, but it wasn't. It just feels right and helps me to feel more myself. I have not transitioned yet.

[DonnaC]

How did/do you feel when you crossdressed, or for the transitioned, dressed up. Is it a sexual feeling, or kidding a warm fizzy feeling inside? Please say if you're transitioned or not...
Well, I suppose at first it was kind of a sexual feeling at first, seeing myelf in the mirror, but eventually that wore off and I realized that I actually feel like myself (the person that I really am).  So I guess that I would say that it feels normal.

Donna

Posted on: April 28, 2008, 12:45:52 PMWell, I suppose at first it was kind of a sexual feeling at first, seeing myelf in the mirror, but eventually that wore off and I realized that I actually feel like myself (the person that I really am).  So I guess that I would say that it feels normal.

Donna

[deviousxen]

Other people got a bit aroused? Thats reassuring considering that it used to be an instant trigger for me. I kind of turned myself on...
But now its a bit less cause of hormones. Its actually cool to dress however I want without worrying about getting turned on, and yeah... It is a zen thing.


This is reassuring. I thought I was a weirdo in that..

[DJorgensen]

If I am wearing something that I like or that I feel accents my body well, I tend to feel more comfortable.
There are times that I do enjoy going all out and putting effort into being pretty. I seem to like fashion over function.... which isn't always that nice on the bank at the end of the day.
Otherwise, well its just not a matter I am overly concerned with.

I put on clothes to take them off later. The only thing that sounds efficient about that is that its too cold to be naked all the time in Canada

[Moira Midnigh]

I haven't really been able to dress up a lot (that's probably gonna change when I move out, oh for sure!) but the times I did, it was...well...

First time was scary. I mean, I just felt that I should try it, 'cause I've always wanted to...and I did, and it felt very good! There was some arousal, aye, but it didn't last too long. I was very emotionally excited, though, but I didn't get to enjoy it to my fullest, since I had to stay away from windows so the neighbours wouldn't catch a glance. So I only wore them for an hour (I borrowed my mother's  )

Second time...uhm, well, I had become part of this little theatre club, mostly improvised theatre and you get to play a lot of weird roles then Anyway, we were having a special Impro-evening where we slept over at the theatre, and some of us got the idea that we should go dress ourselves up and stroll around the town. It was close to 11, I'd say. So I pick this -obviously- female coat, get the other girls to help me with the wig (long black hair, yes please!) and put on a hat and I was ready to go! I dare say, apart from the Pirate, I was the most feminine-looking of the bunch. Well, helped a bit that two were dressed as Pigeons, one as a hippie, one as a sleeper...and then the pirate, who was...well, pirates are sexy per definition, so yeah. Anyway, I had so much confidence walking there, laughing for real and having a good time. No arousal here, either. I just felt a part of them and it felt all natural.

I had some episodes during the lower grades of school as well, and I really did notice how I got more confidence when I could escape some of my shackles.

Nowadays, when I stay up late, I put on a skirt and just...well, sit back down at the computer. The hair on my legs ruins the feeling, but it doesn't feel weird to do it.


~Moi

[Alyssa M.]

The hair on my legs ruins the feeling.

Um.... that can be fixed, you know?

I hate leg hair! Yech!

[Lokaeign]

(Androgyne, still living in assigned female gender)

It's not sexual, except to the extent that I am more confident sexually if I feel good about myself (for which CDing is a must).  It more that I go crazy if I don't do it.  I can survive wearing slightly androgynous women's clothes during the working week, and more masculine wear for weekends and eves., but if I didn't CD properly at least once in a while I would go totally hatstand.

[louise000]

Many years ago I bought some womens clothes and put them on. For a few moments I felt happy because I thought wearing them would make me feel like the person I thought I really was. But as soon as I looked in the mirror I was disgusted with my appearance - I literally looked like a man wearing a skirt. So I threw them out and vowed I would never do it again.

Since then, from time to time I have purchased on impulse quite alot of female clothes and would love to wear them, but I rarely do so. Although when I do I am no longer so appalled at my appearance as I am now on HRT and I have learned to make the best of a bad job as far as looks are concerned. Most times if I am not in male attire (for work and so as not to offend friends and family), I dress fairly androgyne or in womens jeans, tops, jackets which could be taken as being for either sex. One day when I am completely satisfied that I can do so confidently I will dress in a more feminine way.

At the moment my dear S.O. hates the thought of my being TS and I have to handle anything to do with my gender issues on a very low key basis.
L.

[Moira Midnigh]

The hair on my legs ruins the feeling.

Um.... that can be fixed, you know?

I hate leg hair! Yech!

I know, and it's the first thing I'll fix when I move 


~Moi

[Lutin]

Yes, leg hair's interesting (as a concept, not as something to stare at and ponder deeply )... When I'm feeling less feminine, and am not in the mood to feel feminine, I tend to try and avoid shaving for as long as possible. I have two dancing classes a week (Monday and Tuesday), though, so not shaving sort of flies out the window every Monday morning...But I was quite proud of myself that I managed to stay out of skirts, shorts (just 'cause I hate them) and dresses ('cause I don't actually own any) all summer. Wore jeans and tracky-dacks the whole time. And it gets bloody hot here in summer.  

Mind you, it does sort of feel nice when you haven't shaved for a while and suddenly your winter coat has gone...

At the moment my dear S.O. hates the thought of my being TS and I have to handle anything to do with my gender issues on a very low key basis.

Poor you, sweety! Have you told anyone else who will be able to give you the support you need? Even if you don't feel like you need any support, even just a close friend or someone who won't have any problems with it that you can talk to... There's nothing like a good vent.

As for my own cross-dressing, I don't know, it seems a bit harder going FtM than MtF. As I said, I *always* wear pants, and usually fairly daggy jumpers. It may sound weird, but I feel most comfortable when in jeans and an old pj top. My two fav pj tops both have caused my brother, on completely separate occasions, to say "If you were a guy wearing that top, I'd say you were gay. It's just such a gay purple."  I don't know what it is, but I feel far happier and more like myself wearing jeans+jimmies top than anything else. Mum says that after I was born I didn't stop crying 'til I was 1 1/2 -she reckons it was just 'cause it was cold and bright outside and I wanted to go back in, but I reckon it was 'cause I knew that physically and psychologically I didn't match up.

Or just 'cause I was hungry.  

Lutin