Hello

[Melissa]

It's not that they see being TS is a choice, but rather actually transitioning as the choice.  However, they tend to turn a blind eye to the alternatives because they can not truly understand.

Melissa

[michelle]

Hi,
I am Michelle, 59 going on 60 year old, refuge from a disfunctional family, with a loving spouce, children, and ex whom I would rather not think about, grown children, and grand children.  Who grew up in the praires of the Dakotas and has since moved on.   I wish you welcome.    Whatever problems you have, some one else here has had.  So make yourself at home and share what ever yu can.

[Bryanne]

What is really sad is that the more I deny my feminity, the more I want to express it.  Like with shaving my legs, I hate having hair on my legs.  It feels so nice to be smooth, but my wife doesn't like for me to do it, because it reminds her of my issues.  I am an avid bicyclist.  Many who ride bikes shave their legs.  I was at a bike shop looking around and when I got home I told her that I fit right in because of the shaven legs.  That pissed her off, because she doesn't like for to bring it up.  It is ok if she does, but I am not to bring it up.

[TheBattler]

Hi Bryanne,

I am a triathlete so many of my friends and myself have shaved/waxed leg. It does feel good when swimming, riding and running with no hair on the legs.

Alice

[Bryanne]

At least I have a legitimate excuse for being hairless on the legs.  It is so nice not having all the hair.  It looks nasty as well.
Bryanne


Posted at: June 20, 2006, 08:28:53 PMCould some let me know if I am ugly as a woman?

[Melissa]

We don't know you very well.  How can we judge you?  My guess is that you're not.  You can not go by pictures alone.  Beauty comes from within us all. 

If you would like a comment about your picture, I would say that you look like a woman in there.  It looks like you did a good job not putting on too much makeup.

Melissa

[Bryanne]

Well yes, I was just wanting to know about the picture.  Thanks for the compliment.

Bryanne

[HelenW]

You look fine to me, hon'.

Better than the way I think I look, that's fer sure.

(One of these days I'll get a pic good enough to post - but when?  I think I'm my own worst critic, part of my problem with perfectionism.)

helen

[Melissa]

I think I'm my own worst critic, part of my problem with perfectionism

Aren't we all?  It took many many people telling me how good I actually look (all unsolicated), before I actually started to believe it myself.

Melissa

[Bryanne]

Well One thing I do not like is my eye make up is too much.  I went to a MAC counter and the stylist did my eyes.  I looks good, but looks too made up.  The other thing i do not like is my face is too shiny in the picture.  My wig is new, so I think it helps compliment my face, plus my ear rings show through the hairs of the wig.

Bryanne

[Melissa]

The general appearance of your eyes is the outsides seem to slant downwards.  There are makeup tricks to counteract this.  You may need to do a search online.  I think the shininess of your face gives the appearance of lacking facial hair, which is a good thing.  A smile may also help.

Melissa

[TheBattler]

A smile may also help.

Melissa

LOL - Thats what my Theripst said today when looking at all of my photos.


Alice

[Melissa]

It's true, women smile more than men.  That must say something about being a woman.

Melissa

[Bryanne]

I try to smile, but sometimes I do not know whether or not I look good with a smile.  I also have a small gap between my teeth.  I would like to get some veneers to cover it up.  I have talkedto my dentist. which he says is possible, but it would be expensive.  I also took a lot of anitbiotics as a child with gave my teeth a slight tint.  It isn't perfectly white. Maybe I am being too vain.

Bryanne

[Melissa]

My teeth aren't perfectly white and they are crooked.  However, when I'm out as female, I can't help but smile.

Melissa

[TheBattler]

However, when I'm out as female, I can't help but smile.

Melissa

I can so relate to that. I still look back with fond memeries when I came out as Alice and had those photos taken. Even when I am wearing I skirt I am so much happier.

Alan/Alice

[Nero]

Bryanne, I see no gap. It isn't noticeable. But even if it was... don't cover it up!
A person's true beauty is in their uniqueness.
But then again, someone like me has to believe that statement.
But no, I think one actually sacrifices one's beauty when one alters oneself to fit the stereotypes of what is considered beautiful.

Nero

[lynn]

Bryanne,

you look very pretty. your photo is nice, but you do need a big smile, but that is another issue i think.

you keep referring to your "problem". i don't think you have a problem and you shouldn't be beating yourself up over this. i don't see my other self as a problem and you shouldn't either. you are who you are and as soon as you accept that that big smile will appear on it own.

you might try letting your wife adjust over time. i know how hard it is to hold back but sometimes her feelings have to come first. you have made your feeling clear and she might need time to catch up with you.

good luck and keep smiling...

[jackie TV]

i have been of and on for years  thanks for the moral support


jackie


Posted at: June 29, 2006, 12:32:18 AMhi girl sI want to thank yoy for the support you have been giving me I fell so comfotable in en femmeno how do I get my wife to acept it


love Jackie

[Melissa]

Welcome Jackie, why don't you start by posting an introduction in the Introductions section.  It would give us a better idea of your situation.

Melissa