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I guess my question is what makes you identify as fitting with the androgynes? How do you see this in relation to male and female genders i.e. are you a mix, neither, 30/70, some other gender or ungendered, pregendered? What is your desired presentation in terms of body and dress?
One thing that happens often is that when I'm with an all-male group, such as some situations at work, or in the pub, I as a bio-male definitely feel more feminine than the other guys appear to be. Even my voice veers off into a higher register. It's not a particularly comfortable feeling, but it's a sign.
In many ways I@m happy with my male characteristics, and am fine with my body and being rather hairy and so on. But I also like pretty things, scents and fluffy tops to wear and skirts. That's how ideally I would dress. It's hot today, and I'd love bo swap my shorts for a short skirt, and might well do so at home, but there are practical problems with that out in the street! The day may be coming when man-skirts and modern kilts and the like are more prevalent, but at the moment I don't fancy being abused, beaten up or shot as I go peacefully about my business.
I am definitely a mix. what numbers to put on it I don't know. If I can rely on all those questionnaires about being masc or fem, well, I'm just about 50/50. I don't feel myself as non-gendered as some androgynes do, but rather both-gendered, or multi-gendered, and very happy to be so.
I've come up with a presentaion that works for me, and that is pretty much a mixutre of male and female characteristics. I wear more colourful clothes than males are supposed to in our culture, and have long hair, but the I have hairy arms and have pretty much a male shape - all I know is that people don't take me to be a woman, possibly they rather take me as a weird kind of man, which is also wrong, but I get through as I am.
