Quote from: Beni on June 18, 2009, 09:58:30 PM
Nope, you don't look like a man at all, so you'll never pass as a guy. ;-)
Though a smile would make you beautiful.
Beni
I concur heavily. Abolish all insecurities from your mind, relax, and allow yourself a sincere, gracious smile. It doesn't exactly make you look more feminine, but a friendly expression makes people more inclined to find you attractive. Like any woman, you yearn to FEEL attractive. In light of that, remember: the way you feel INSIDE reflects on your appearances OUTSIDE. The first step toward being attractive on the outside is being attractive on the inside.
And ma'am, may I be bold and suggest perhaps a fire engine-red instead of pink? I would use slightly less make-up around my eyes, and I would have my lips WAXED rather than shaved. Remember, a lot of women have to have unwanted hair removed, and you would just be one among a vast throng. Almost every woman in history has had to endure a little pain in the name of beauty. I can tell you work hard already on your appearances, though, I compliment you on what you have accomplished. That WAS a wise choice of lipstick, for example. I think you're on the right track.
I also suggest a little more sleeve than that particular outfit has. Until you have shed more of that unwanted muscle mass, you are not going to be able to pull that off. I suggest getting a membership at a gym, and concentrate heavily on toning. I think that usually means using lighter weights for longer periods of time. If you are on the full rig of HRT, you will NOT bulk up, no matter what you do. As always, though, the best kind of excercise in the world is aerobic and cardio
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Honestly, though, you could pass just fine as a WOMAN just as you are. All you need to succeed is self-confidence. For evidence, have you seen the thread entitled, "Getting ma'amed without getting glammed"? That's what happens when you are NOT feeling knotted up internally over your appearances. When you are feeling anxious about your looks, it stiffens your posture, quite contrary to the fluid movements and easy grace that one expects from a TRUE woman. You see?
Good luck!!!
PS: most people who DO notice are likely to be too tactful to point it out to you or anyone else. Unless you are in the American South, which is absolutely infamous for backbiting, gossipping and bigotry, anybody who guesses on you is unlikely to SAY anything unless you've been rude to them somehow. Other than that, just have faith that, if you show yourself to be trustworthy and kind of heart, NOBODY is going to try to unmask you or anything. That would be unspeakably rude, no matter where you go, and I hope you don't frequent the types of places where that is likely to happen. Open your heart, and trust: it makes you look a LOT more feminine.
