M2F Tomboys?

[marriedtgdad]

I have no doubt that I am m2f, and I'm seriously thinking about/planning for transition.

I know that hormones change people in unpredictable ways, but here's the thing: I want to look like a girl, and i want to live a woman's life, but I'm not that interested in being GIRLY. I'm sure there will be times I'll want to get all dolled up, but most of the time I'll probably wear jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers. I'm very into sports, politics, video games, and films... I don't want any of that to change.. I just want to do it all as a woman.

To be a bit childish.. I want to still be ME after transition, just me with boobs and no weiner 🙂

Can anyone else relate? Or will hormones rewire me so much that I'll end up preferring shoe shopping to watching my Seahawks on NFL Sunday Ticket? 🙂

[tekla]

Don't see any conflict there.  No reason you can't watch the 'Hawks play the East Coast game, and still go shoe shopping.

[marriedtgdad]

I think if I went shoe shopping, it would be for some more New Balance sneaks 🙂

I am interested/afraid of how hormones will change my basic personality, if at all.

[Gracie Faise]

There are genetic girls who are boyish, right?
So it is 100% fine to be a trans girl and boyish.


Take me for instance. I'm not dressy or proper or super girly all the time (though I am girly. Just not anything especially girly). Heck, in a hard core gamer. I'm even in school right now studying game art and design, which is a male dominated field. I dork off with my guy friends and do stupid things all the time.

But it will never make me question my gender, which I know to be female.

As for hormones, I'm on them and my interests have not changed at all. Hormones aren't going to suddenly make you want to wear dresses and hate sports. Those are cultural things, not biological things.

[CassandraR]

For me hormones did alter my brain a fair amount and I could tell a large difference in my personality before and after I started taking them but it didn't really alter my core values or attitudes much, mainly just behaviors. And M2F tomboys seem to be a very common thing if you go by the boards here. I know I am leaning in that direction myself. Still you can craft any identity you like with some work and introspection. Perfectly okay.

[marriedtgdad]

Thanks for the feedback, everyone 🙂 After transition, I hope I'll be a cute spunky tomboy geek girl 🙂

[Gracie Faise]

Thanks for the feedback, everyone 🙂 After transition, I hope I'll be a cute spunky tomboy geek girl 🙂

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[Sheila]

I don't dress up all that much but I do like to do it every once in a while. I really like jeans and a nice top with tennis shoes. I'm not at all that girly. I don't like sports though but I kind of run down the middle maybe a little on the fem side. I love being a woman and can't imagine being anything but. I'm post op 4 years now and think that I have been this way my whole life. I just can't imagine having something between my legs. It is just unthinkable.
Sheila

[marriedtgdad]

Gracie... you look... wow. 🙂

[Maddie Secutura]

I'd consider myself one of those tomboys.  Nothing like a refreshing bike ride or sitting down to watch the football game (I'm in Pittsburgh so guess who I cheer for).  I can totally relate to that.

[tekla]

And I've said this before, there are lots of female sports fans, particularly in the under 35, the Title IX women.  Older women not so much, but hey, the clocks ticking on them and their generation anyway.  Look at how much trouble Hillary has getting anyone under 35, women in particular, to vote for her.

[Maddie Secutura]

Yeah...I seriously doubt Hilary's ability to win the election but this isn't a political thread so I'm not going to say much more on that.  Had any of you avoided the Barbie aisle not because you didn't like them but because you didn't want to get caught being there?

[deviousxen]

The way I see it, people often transition to become free - not letting yourself do things because of it would be placing yourself right back in a cage again.

A good point...

Yeah. I'm still a little bit worried, but as I said, I apparently broke my friends gaydar. I guess this is just proof I'm a huge tomboyish thing cause they basically see me as a girl thing now...

I enjoy art, science, reading, forensic shows, video games, movies, animations, anime, cartoons, thinking, action scenes, and music. Very little of that is strictly feminine. I have yet to get completely "Dolled up" or actually go out in drag cause of how nervous I truthfully am (well... I don't know if you'd consider it drag at this point.), but friend person says I could pass... So who knows?

[Kate]

To be a bit childish.. I want to still be ME after transition, just me with boobs and no weiner 🙂

If you're worried about the possible emotional feminizing effects of estrogen, and that those changes will make you "less you," you might want to reconsider things a bit and discuss all this with a therapist.

Keep in mind that transition isn't just physical changes. There are *social* changes that come along with it. Your life will NOT be the same as it is now. Your life won't simply be you "with boobs and no weiner." There's a LOT more to it. A total context change. The loss of male privilege. On and on... changes that are difficult to anticipate, but part of the total package of which those physical changes are just a small part of.

~Kate~

[deviousxen]

To be a bit childish.. I want to still be ME after transition, just me with boobs and no weiner 🙂

If you're worried about the possible emotional feminizing effects of estrogen, and that those changes will make you "less you," you might want to reconsider things a bit and discuss all this with a therapist.

Keep in mind that transition isn't just physical changes. There are *social* changes that come along with it. Your life will NOT be the same as it is now. Your life won't simply be you "with boobs and no weiner." There's a LOT more to it. A total context change. The loss of male privilege. On and on... changes that are difficult to anticipate, but part of the total package of which those physical changes are just a small part of.

~Kate~

Hence why I want to see one myself. I like the emotional effects though... They've only made me a better person that aligns more with my idealism. I don't lie to myself about who I'm not. I'm not triggered into arousal every 10 seconds either and I don't fantasize about being some fighter like I used to... I'm way too peaceful for that bull->-bleeped-<-.

[bethzerosix]

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[lemon]

i wouldnt worry about becoming girly or having your interests change, i think when people say hrt made their emotions/interests more feminine or something its more of a mind over matter type of thing. i think hormones mostly just do physical changes. ive been on hormones for a couple years and my personality/emotions have always stayed the same 100%. it would be weird for me to feel like hormones suddenly made my emotions female since i already considered the way i feel to be female which is why i started hrt in the first place.

& dont worry theres lots of tomboyish transsexuals, a tomboy is just as much a woman as a girly girl. my interests & style have always been girly but personality wise i'm not traditionally soft & feminine, i'd rather be aggressive & speak my mind & be in control  >

[Cortana]

omg, i totally know what you mean. im like really into being a sk8ter punk, think avril lavigne-ish (when she was 17), so i usually wear sk8ter chick stuff. sometimes i get really girly and dressed up which is fun too and i like it but most of the time its like jeans, a band tee, and some slipon shoes or a punk-ish tee with my tripp capris/pants (which have chains on them and are actually boys cause i couldnt find girls although they are like extra small 😀 ), a quarter sleeve hoody and some slipon shoes or converse.

so ya, i think its alright, as a matter of a fact i think i says "hey look at me, im such a female i can be a tomboy".

just remember dont let your jeans hang off your ass or get like HUGE shirts. thats not tomboyish thats boyish. 😉

[Nero]

Had any of you avoided the Barbie aisle not because you didn't like them but because you didn't want to get caught being there?

Now barbies have always been my guilty pleasure. I loved them as a kid, I love them now. Got a small collection of special edition ones in the closet as well as tons of old ones with their head and/or limbs missing. Back in the stone age aka the 80s when I was small, they came in pretty glittery gowns with big hair and they were a lot better than they are now.

[Audrey]

To be a bit childish.. I want to still be ME after transition, just me with boobs and no weiner 🙂

If you're worried about the possible emotional feminizing effects of estrogen, and that those changes will make you "less you," you might want to reconsider things a bit and discuss all this with a therapist.

Keep in mind that transition isn't just physical changes. There are *social* changes that come along with it. Your life will NOT be the same as it is now. Your life won't simply be you "with boobs and no weiner." There's a LOT more to it. A total context change. The loss of male privilege. On and on... changes that are difficult to anticipate, but part of the total package of which those physical changes are just a small part of.

~Kate~

that being said there is also female priviledge that is or can be gained.  I often get treated better at stores that are mostly male dominated like hardware stores.   And despite transistioning I still love to make things and it seems that when I am shopping every guy working there asks me if I need help finding anything.     The other day i went to pick up a package at the UPS place and didn't realize that during the day you go to the front.  I was used to going around back to pick up my package during night hours.  So i mosied on back and one of the drivers went out of his way to find my packages.  Not only that but he helped me carry them out to my car while everyone else had to wait in line at the front of the store.  Ahhhh chivilry is not dead. 

Audrey