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Started by Ellissa Ray, July 06, 2006, 08:10:19 PM

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Ellissa Ray

So I finally got the nerve to show my sister my revised coming out letter about an hour ago. I hate being that nervous. I knew I would'n't have anything to worry about but still couldn't fight off the shaking. Anyway, I'm so happy I have the sister I do, totally accepting, a little suprized, but no disaproval.....at all. It was instantly easy to go into detail about the whole thing with her, and answer any questions she had. And then she says "to bad you dont wear the same size as me, then we could share clothes..." :) I could only wish it would go so well with my parents, but I'm not counting on that. She's gonna my best support through everything ;D
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HelenW

Good for you, Elissa!  It must feel wonderful to have the first hurdle successfully overcome.  It's also wonderful that you have a new ally in case things go less well than you wish (not that they definitiely will, of course).

Keep going and good luck!
helen
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NightAngel

Congrats Ellissa Ray!!!!!!  :eusa_clap:

After I told my older sister, she also offered me her clothes  :)  ...


QuoteI could only wish it would go so well with my parents, but I'm not counting on that.

Parents can surprise you and accept you as a new daughter, maybe it won't be so hard as you thinking right now  ;) .
My family did surprised me, I have never expected that they will accepted me but they did, If they really love you than it shouldn't be so hard.

Wish you all the luck!!!
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Michelle
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Ellissa Ray

I found out that my sister told her boyfriend 2 days ago (which I gave her permision to tell him when ever) but I had no idea till she told me today. He's been around the house 24/7 and the 3 of us have been out shopping and gone out to eat. Never would have guessed he knew, he didn't act weird at all. only difference was, although I didn't think anything of it at the time, was him making a point to hold doors open for us (I usually do it for people to) and having me order food first...just subtle things...things he didn't used to do. Kinda nice that he's acccepting of and treating me as who I am ;D
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Melissa

That makes me smile Ellissa.  I'm very happy for you.

Melissa
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sheila18

Ellisa:
That is sweet! Am glad for you. You'll see how much more of this you'll get. Before I came ou the best I could hope for was my friends thinking and approving my macho make believe escapades but they never satisfied me they left me wanting for something real. When I came out a simple event as having a man or a female friend opening a door for me gave me a sense of fulfilment a sense of finally things being in their proper place.
love, sheila
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Jillieann Rose

Good going Ellisa.
I'm happy things are going well.
:)
Jillieann
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Ellissa Ray

can I just say I love all of you, you're all so positive  ;D :D :)


Posted at: July 10, 2006, 06:30:08 PM

So my parents had gone on vacationover the past 11 days so I figured it to be the oportune time to order myself some clothes online...all was good except i was still waiting on a skirt that hadn't shown up by yesterdays mail, and they were coming home last night. I had my morning class today and when I got home my parents asked me if I had ordered anything....of course instant reaction (because they dont know yet) is to say no. So they assume it was a mess up and say they should send it back. I told my sister about it and mention I should tell them so they dont get rid if the skirt and I want to tell them anyway. Later my sister asks me if I want er to give them my coming out letter while I'm at my afternoon class. As much as I wanted to give them it in person I opted for her offer because I had enough trouble keeping from trembling to death from nerves when I told her... So I come home from class and my sister tells me she gave the letter to my mom and doesn't know if my dad know yet... about an hour later my mom comes in my room to say "Why dont you come out and talk to us?". Well, all went well, as I should have expected they were totally accepting, just not fully able to understand especially since I'm still atracted to females. anyway thier main concerns are just that I am truely TS and not just confused (I'll humor them with the therapy I planned on going to anyway) and getting a job, discrimination, and such. But they said they will always love me (I expected that) and will suport me no mater what. ;D

^-^ So peacefull now  ^-^
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NightAngel

Congratulations Ellissa Ray !!!

I'm very happy for you!!
My parents were the same (old school, proud to have son and so on) but they accepted me immediately after I have told them the whole story about my life, they only wish that I have told them before and not waiting so long.  :)

Wish you all the luck on your journey!!!


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Michelle
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stephanie

Hehe, I was the exact same way.  My sister is the most supportive person in my family, she accepts me 110% and also has given me some of her old clothes (apparently I'm a size 12-14).  Same thing happened with the clothing that I ordered online too, only I deliberately had it sent to my sister's house so as not to raise any eyebrows.  The mistake I made was bringing it home and throwing the box away in our recycle bin (which for some strange reason my mother found - why was she snooping around in the trash?)

My parents are generally accepting, and again, mainly concerned about discrimination and the ability to hold a job.  My father is concerned about losing a son - he's flat out told me that he can't accept me as a woman, nor will he ever consider me his daughter.  But he does acknowledge that it's his problem to deal with, not mine, and he's been seeking counseling for it.  This surprised me.

Anyway, I seem to have a way of turning all topics onto me.  I hate that I do that.  So I'll sum up by simply saying congratulations Ellissa!  This is probably the hardest milestone to get over, and it's always nice when it sails by with such a sigh of relief!

Steph (the other one)
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Luc

Hmm... I haven't come out to my younger brother, and yet I still am able to con him into giving me all his old clothes. Helps that he's bigger than me, but young enough to know current "fashion". Don't think it'll surprise him much when I eventually tell him I'm trans, though.

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