How do you know you're not a woman?

[Nero]

Alright, settle down. No stampedes over Nero, please.

But seriously, I keep reading stuff on this board from male-bodied unicorns that suggests they really feel like and/or want to be female. And the opposite from female-bodied unicorns.

Okay, so if you want to be treated like a girl, would rather have a girl body than a male body if you'd been given the choice, like the term 'woman' better than the term 'man' when it comes right down to it - what makes you androgyne?
How do you know you're not just a non-op transsexual?

Now some of you will say - but I like to have some masculine features - being furry, having sideburns or what have you. Well - there's plenty of manly females that'd like these things too.
And some of you will go on about this or that aspect of maleness you enjoy having - certain interests, being logical and scientific or what have you - well nothing I haven't heard from tons of ladies on this board.

In short - your love of your femininity far outweighs the few things you like about your masculinity.

So how can you be so sure you're not a woman?


Note - If you're not one of the ones parading your femininity all over this board, I'm not talking about you. I'm talking to the ones who flaunt their feminine selves and then wax poetic about the wonders of androgyny.  Androgyny implies neither male nor female, folks. Not a person with zero masculinity. Nero turns an accusatory look on a few friends of his.

Pleeeeease don't kick me out of the forest. 

[Kinkly]

My body is male
my Hobies are a mix of Male (Game playing /graphics programing)
                          and Fem (Painting Acting )
I'd like my body to be a mix (Beard & Breasts)  Have beard thinking seriously about breasts would also like softer skin
would love to be a dad
Logic Math/science(male)
creativity (Fem)
I'm not neither man/woman I'm both

[Nero]

yeah, you sound authentically androgyne, sweetie.

My body is male
my Hobies are a mix of Male (Game playing /graphics programing)
                          and Fem (Painting Acting )
I'd like my body to be a mix (Beard & Breasts)  Have beard thinking seriously about breasts would also like softer skin
would love to be a dad

[RebeccaFog]

I'm in a place where I don't know what I am.

I've been thinking non op TS lately.

I don't have an issue with you asking tough questions or being challenging.

[Shana A]

Okay, so if you want to be treated like a girl, would rather have a girl body than a male body if you'd been given the choice, like the term 'woman' better than the term 'man' when it comes right down to it - what makes you androgyne?
How do you know you're not just a non-op transsexual?

In previous thread/s somewhere in the forums, it's been said in no uncertain terms that non-op TS doesn't exist, that if we don't want SRS, that we aren't really TS, we're something else, TG, CD, androgyne, etc.

At times I have considered myself non-op, non-hrt TS, however, I really don't need to call myself that for validation. Suffice to say that I feel gender dysphoria. But not intensely enough to go through the whole shebang. The costs, not just monetary, are high. I'm happy enough to consider myself something else. Maybe that makes me androgyne.

Androgyny implies neither male nor female, folks. Not a person with zero masculinity.

An androgyne can be a mix of both genders, or neither of them. That's how I understand it.

Zythyra

[Kinkly]

nero
you asked the question are you going to answer it as well?

[Nero]

Oh, I'm not androgyne, hon.

[Shana A]

Oh, I'm not androgyne, hon.

Are you sure?  You've been hanging around the forest with us for a while now 

Z

[RebeccaFog]

maybe you've drank our contaminated water.

[NickSister]

I've asked myself the same question many times. As far as I can figure I want to have a female body, I need it. My very nerves seem to scream out for the right stimuli. I'm not all that interested in SRS but am considering whether transitioning is right for me (to the extent of hormone therapy and living as a girl - a very tomish girl anyway.)

I guess that would make me a pre-op transsexual by your definition Nero?

The thing that stops me knowing I am a woman is that I don't feel like I am. But to some extent I feel I have built up some internal barriers to protect myself and I am slowly eroding these. Perhaps I have hidden my true self from my conscious mind. I feel like I am getting somewhere in my self explorations. Perhaps there is a woman in there somewhere hiding, a flower in the attic. Looking back at how I felt as a child has helped a lot. Lately I have been saying to myself that "I am a woman" just to try out how it feels and it is starting to make more sense.

I am definitely not male. You're right, I am not sure I am not a woman. I identify as androgyne because I am not male and not really comfortable identifying as female. I don't know what I am supposed to feel - what does it feel like to be female? Hopefully I have not been dishonest about this, any deception on my part comes from self deception. Can't blame a girl for that can we?

It's odd but talking about this makes me feel like a failure. I've fought in the past against people that think androgynes are just fence sitters yet the irony is I seem to be case and point - an androgyne while in transit. 

Oh Nero, I feel fit to burst right now.

[Shana A]

I've asked myself the same question many times. As far as I can figure I want to have a female body, I need it. My very nerves seem to scream out for the right stimuli. I'm not all that interested in SRS but am considering whether transitioning is right for me (to the extent of hormone therapy and living as a girl - a very tomish girl anyway.)

I guess that would make me a pre-op transsexual by your definition Nero?

The thing that stops me knowing I am a woman is that I don't feel like I am. But to some extent I feel I have built up some internal barriers to protect myself and I am slowly eroding these. Perhaps I have hidden my true self from my conscious mind. I feel like I am getting somewhere in my self explorations. Perhaps there is a woman in there somewhere hiding, a flower in the attic. Looking back at how I felt as a child has helped a lot. Lately I have been saying to myself that "I am a woman" just to try out how it feels and it is starting to make more sense.

I am definitely not male. You're right, I am not sure I am not a woman. I identify as androgyne because I am not male and not really comfortable identifying as female. I don't know what I am supposed to feel - what does it feel like to be female? Hopefully I have not been dishonest about this, any deception on my part comes from self deception. Can't blame a girl for that can we?

It's odd but talking about this makes me feel like a failure. I've fought in the past against people that think androgynes are just fence sitters yet the irony is I seem to be case and point - an androgyne while in transit. 

Nicksister,

I struggle with similar issues, what am I, androgyne, non op ts, tg, in denial? and that's even after having transitioned for a year. I know I'm not-male, that much is sure, but I don't feel 100% female either. I'm really just me, Z, whatever that might be...

I've also had the discussions regarding androgynes being fence sitters. One question, not just to you, I'm asking aloud for my own benefit, do we really need to be all the way one or the other? Is it really all or nothing? I don't think it needs to be that way. At least not for me. There are many shades of gender in between. Androgynes do exist.

maybe you've drank our contaminated water.

Nero drank the water!!?? Welcome to club then... hehe  Nnyone have an extra manual for Nero??

Zythyra

[Simone Louise]

Okay, so if you want to be treated like a girl, would rather have a girl body than a male body if you'd been given the choice, like the term 'woman' better than the term 'man' when it comes right down to it - what makes you androgyne?
How do you know you're not just a non-op transsexual?

My daughter took the same set of observations and told my wife that she is afraid I am gay. My wife told me. I laughed. My wife said it is no laughing matter.

My daughter also said that if I transitioned, she would require years of therapy (at our expense). I am not TS, because, for me, this body works and I am not willing to pay the costs of any major changes to it (including her therapy).

Why would we kick you out of the forest? We thrive on your attentions.

Your servant,
S

[NickSister]

My daughter also said that if I transitioned, she would require years of therapy (at our expense).

Your daughter loves the emotional blackmail eh?

[Pica Pica]

I know I'm not a woman because I don't feel like a woman, I don't look in the mirror and see a woman, I don't feel much pain in not being a woman - though sometimes I do want to feel pretty and I think only a woman can be pretty.

I do tend to flaunt my more feminine elements on here, because i can and because I get enough chance to flaunt my male elements in my three dimensional life.

[Pica Pica]

they're the presentation bits mainly, the medium.

[Simone Louise]

My daughter also said that if I transitioned, she would require years of therapy (at our expense).

Your daughter loves the emotional blackmail eh?

Mostly, I think she finds me so messed up that she feels obliged to take over my life, which is emotionally taxing to her. At her age, one knows everything.

S

[Lokaeign]

Androgyne/3rd gender (I prefer the latter) seems like the best fit for me.  I'm miserable as a woman, but I'm not a man either.  I'd like a manlier body, true, but then I'd probably stick a dress on it.

[taru]

I'm kind of undecided between TS and androgyne.

I know that I that I do strongly prefer to live as a woman if given a binary choice and living as a male-bodied genderqueer person caused lots of dysphoria.

But I don't feel like I have a gender identity. Self-identifying with a gender just seems like a very foreign concept to me. What is a woman?

HRT makes me very happy. SRS will make things simpler. So from a practical standpoint I am just a TS that is thinking things in a nonconventional way and does not have a binary gender-identity.

[RebeccaFog]

How do you know you're not a woman?

Because every time I look at my vagina, it's sticking it's tongue out at me.

[Eva Marie]

Seems like if I were a woman then when I imagine what it would be like to be and live as a woman it would feel "right" and it does not.

However, I will allow that I have discovered that this process of learning who I am is filled with surprises, and in the future who knows where the journey will lead me.