Do we look young for our age?

[cindybc]

Hi Lacitychick21 well that was right nice of them, looking at your avatar I probably would have guessed that age as well. Well when I was down in Asheville North Carolina a couple of years ago, I was till smoking then, I went into this service station to buy a pack of butts and the Girl behind the counter asked my ID, she was serious. I told her well now isn't that a wonderful compliment then another girl showed up and said, just give her the cigarettes would you. Ahhh well I had my name in the lime light for a couple of minutes there anyway. Well that's one thing that will never change, I love attracting attention.

Cindy

[gothique11]

I look really young. I'm 29 and most people guess early 20's or 25. I get carded lots, and I've been accused of using "my older sisters ID" before. It's been a few months since someone asked me what grade I was in (I get that from time to time, and I got it before transitioning).

--natalie

[cindybc]

Hi hon, don't kid yourself, HRT has a way of softening the facial skin which will make you appear to be a few years younger, depending on the person and their age. and yes there are the few who need to go through FFs in order to get closer to their target gender. That time at the gas station was just one of those amusing things that sometimes happens, in reality I do not look that young, but I have had some folks clock me to be ten years younger or so then I am. I can't really say how old I appeared to be before HRT, I didn't realy pay much attention to how I looked like before. I just know those days were an experience I wouldn't want to go through again. now I am in good shape health wise and I work with girls that are probably young enough to be my daughters and I have a good rapore with them, always did anyway. One can get into some much more interesting and invigorating discussions.

Cindy

[buddJT]

i am in my 30's now and I get carded all the time.  People always guess that I am 10-12 years younger than my actual age. 

[Just Mandy]

It's been a few months since someone asked me what grade I was in (

yea... I had forgotten that little insult... that drove me crazy

Amanda

[cindybc]

Yep quite right Amanda it was an insult when we were younger and trying to pass ourselves off as older. I was carded for going in bars until I was 25 years old when I was finally starting to grow facial hair and couldn't wait for it to grow faster, "yuk!! grrrrrrr."  But once you get past, hmmmmm lets say 40 years old then the wishing is reversed and begin wishing we were younger looking, oh well such is life, at least I am a woman who looks ten years younger and no facial hair, "yuk, yuky yuk!!!"

Cindy

[Laura Eva B]

As a guy I always looked young for my age (like 40 looking like 30) .....

When I started HRT, beard removal, growing out hair, trimming eyebrows, it knocked even more years off me as a "guy" in the space of just 6 months ....  ....

I never believed the "discount" years would hold post transition but they absolutely did, guess my skin is firmer and less wrinkly than a woman of my age, my body more toned and slimmer, my mental attitue .... well I'm a teenager discovering the life I've missed ...  ...

So sure the avatar is me a week or so back .... my true age is (husssh) 50 .... (my internet age rarely gets updated !) .... go figure ....  ....

Laura x

[Just Mandy]

I would guess you as mid thirties Laura.

Amanda

[cindybc]

Hi Laura Eva B, Yes it is exactly as you describe it. I mean for myself I gained weigh for the first time in my life, most it is fatty tissue where most of it in the right where it is supposed to be. The tummy, well I am working on reducing that. Much of the excess muscle tone is gone, not that I ever had much anyway to start with. My arms and legs and hips are much more of the feminine in appearance, I believe that most of these changes was brought on by estrogen 

is firmer and less wrinkly than a woman of my age, my body more toned and slimmer,

Of course yes. I do realy believe that transitioning has been kind to us, Well speaking for myself I feel much more at peace with myself, body mind and soul in synchrony with one another *as one*, the way it was meant to be.

There has been a very drastic change in me mentally and physically. I have never been an aggressive person well even less so now I am quite tolerant of people, I work with them on a nearly a daily basis because I care for them, Even if one of them tramps on my toes, I will not react impulsively. I would sooner forgive them then waste of my time and energy fighting with anyone,  I love that space of peace that I have developed. Ok this is only one micro part of my life and I think I will stop here. This is only a tiny part I have watched grow within me in the past 8 years.

Cindy

[Ms Bev]

Of course we look younger than our age.  Lots of new female fat under my facial skin.
'Trans' Fat......gotta love it!

Seriously.....I have always had a baby face, and been taken for about 10 yrs younger than my actual age.

Bev

[Suzy]

I have always looked young for my age, and until recently hated the fact.  Now I'm not so sure I mind it.  Getting carded in your 40's is downright funny.

Kristi

[deviousxen]

The only thing about my face that makes it seem older, are the high cheekbones, and I guess some other things too, like all of the open pores from shaving (I can't wait until I'm rid of the hair... I hate it...)


But some things about me seem young. My eyes are a bit bigger when I'm not angry at everything, my hairline hasn't receded at all, and my voice is kind of immature (which I prefer...)

[LynnER]

A weird TS marker because I still get asked if I'm excited about high school graduation every year about this time. Guess I look like a teenager.

This one drives me nuts.....

And before going full time I was asked if I was looking forward to summer vacation... And like others, I was never taken seriously on my jobs... till I turned evil and brought the full force of my stare and voice into play....

One of the last jobs I did before going full time, the people I was working for wouldn't listen to me... and right before lunch I finally exploded... Ripped something they were trying to pry off a wall right out tossing it aside. I brought my glared at both of them <my eyes turn vivid green when I'm angry> and bellowed at them <Yell is to nice, but I didn't scream either... just raised my voice to booming>  "I  AM NOT SOME STUPID KID... I AM NOT A TEENAGER, I KNOW WHAT IM DOING SO YOU CAN EITHER HELP OR GET THE (EXPLICIT)ING HELL OUT OF MY WAY!!! YOUR AN IGNORANT OLD MAN (the boss) AND YOUR A DRUNK MORON (his helper) AND IF YOU REALLY WANT MY HELP THEN DO AS I SAY.

Till that point they thought someone had sent a gay kid to help them on the project... after that I made them both look bad in front of there clients... I was never called to work for them again <but the client did>

Carded for beer, accused of using my sisters ID... before I got a new ID before full time accused of using my brother or dads ID...  Now I don't have the trouble so much... Im assumed to be in my mid twenty's <as I said, last year played hell on me and it shows in my face>

[Lori]

I sure like your new pic lynnER.

[Just Mandy]

Part of it may be a physical manifestation of a psychological effect - until we've successfully transitioned we don't really grow up. I don't think one can really mature into an adult of the opposite gender. Like it or not, our gender is a big chunk of our core being and how the hell can a little girl ever grow to be a man or vice versa? Nero

Does anyone else feel like they have not grown up? I've thought that for a long time... like I'm still a kid somehow.

I mean... I'm successful and I do "adult" things... I always do what I commit to... responsible... always been that...
I just feel like sometimes I'm just a little kid. Weird I know.

I sure like your new pic lynnER.

I'll second that... very nice Lynn

Amanda

[cindybc]

Hi Amanda, there is nothing wrong with feeling like a kid on the inside as long as you can still carry on your adult duties.

I am 62 years old and I still feel like a mischievous little kid inside, Wing Walkers suck. Actually the good natured part has been an asset for me working as a social worker, even better with kids.

LynnER hon I admire your courage to stand for what you believe to be your rights. Even though I have always hated aggression *of any kind*, but there are times when I had to put my foot down so to speak. I have had to do so a few times in my life but it takes a lot out of one which is not normally in their nature.

Cindy

[soldierjane]

Prior to transition people would say I was my age or maybe a year more... Nowadays people assume I'm in my early 20's rather than my actual age of 29.

[christene]

Most people think I am mid to late 20's....I am 39. I think a lot of it is the facial hair removal as well as the estrogen. I love it!! People are always amazed when I tell them my real age. ->-bleeped-<-, I still get carded on occasion for ciggarettes (I know, I know I should not smoke...its not to often though ;-))

Christine

[Floating]

Does anyone else feel like they have not grown up? I've thought that for a long time... like I'm still a kid somehow.

I mean... I'm successful and I do "adult" things... I always do what I commit to... responsible... always been that...
I just feel like sometimes I'm just a little kid. Weird I know.

I so do!

I'm 28 (almost wrote 27. Oops) but I feel like I'm maybe 15 or so.  I've always attributed it to a stunted social growth that affects people who stay in school for too long.  Always being in the 'student' position sort of prevents you from being a full grown adult in some respects.

[deviousxen]

I don't want to really become an "adult".

Its just this rigid, half oxidized piece of cubicle garbage.

I used to kind of have a Peter Pan complex of some kind, but I think there's a middle ground for me. Staying mentally flexible and uncorroded as much as I can, yet still having good knowledge and experience all at once. If I ever look like either of my parents, someone put a bullet in my brainstem, please...