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"Why don't you change your mind instead of your body?"

Started by Gracie Faise, May 15, 2008, 10:55:15 PM

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Annwyn

Quote from: cindybc on May 19, 2008, 12:13:26 AM
Hi Kate, I feel the same way about my body, at 62 and no wrinkles full breasts like a teen-ager and a realy nice bushy area down there, every thing looks normal the estrogen has done some wonderful work on this old frame.

Cindy

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I stand by my original post. 

Miss Cindy needs a reality check and every sane person on these forums agrees with me.
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Sarah

Gracie,
We can only change ourselves so much.
The physical world is not answerable to our will.
That said, we need to be able to accept our individual needs and respect those.
That doesn't mean we should let ourselves be run around by every whim, quite the contrary, but we do have needs that are not always understood by ourselves and others.
AND they are still needs.
Very real needs that need to be met.
Telling the difference between one of those and your average pull or want is just a matter of time and practice with experience.
But if we sit deeply enough we usually get an answer that is clear and concise.
It was a wonderful question.
Thank you for asking it.
-Sara
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Elwood

People say, "Well, you can be a tomboy just fine. You don't have to be a man to be yourself."

But they don't get it. I have a body identity, too. My breasts are a serious problem...

If someone said it would be "easier" to change my mind rather than my body, I'd tell them that it isn't. Testosterone is going to do most of the work with my body, simply by taking it. Not to mention that changing my mind would be very difficult, because I have the legitimate symptoms of a legitimate disorder. Being more feminine would not make my body dysphoria go away, nor would it change the core identity of who I feel I am. Gender is a package deal; it acknowledges body identity, mental identity, social identity... a lot if things. It's hard to change all of those things to match your birth sex if they don't already. This isn't something I can change my mind about, as it is considered a true illness by the medical community. In other words, it can't really be "undone." Anyone who thinks we all haven't tried that at some point is pretty shallow minded. I'm sure a lot of transgendered people wanted to just be normal, cisfolk.

People ask me how I know I'm a guy. So I ask them how they know what they are. They just know and it just happens to match with their body. They don't think about it much because it causes them no trouble. Most cisfolk I know tend to mash gender and sex into one concept, so they can't even begin to understand.
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deviousxen

Quote from: Gracie FAISE on May 18, 2008, 08:34:28 PM
Quote from: Kate on May 16, 2008, 10:22:29 AM
Quote from: Gracie FAISE on May 15, 2008, 10:55:15 PM
Recently someone online asked me this:
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How do you know you have a females mind? I mean...what's the diff.?

Which is why I avoid saying "I'm a woman inside" to anyone, as to me that's just more justification and apologizing for what we've done, AND it opens the door for someone to ask questions just like that.

I do like your explanation though!

~Kate~
Yeah, just in general I don't like saying I'm a "woman trapped in a mans body" or "I believe im a woman" or "I feel like a girl inside" or whatever. I say "I am a woman, I just have a birth defect."



Lol. I actually kinda think I was a girl trapped under a rusted shell of things that kinda confused and threw me off... But apparently it got WD40ed and Its blatantly obvious now.... Even if I am still shocked about it. Heh
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