What's taking so long?
http://www.sundaypaper.com/More/Archives/tabid/98/articleType/ArticleView/articleId/2398/Whats-taking-so-long-.aspxBlane Bachelor addresses your relationship woes
By Blane Bachelor
Q I've been dating a great guy for about five months now. I really like him a lot—he's funny, smart and caring. But, yes, there's a problem. He hasn't even kissed me yet. We hold hands and snuggle on the couch, and he gives me a peck on the cheek when he drops me off, but that's it. My friends tell me I'm settling for much less than I deserve. I'm not sure, though. I haven't connected with a guy emotionally like this in so long. We have such a great time together, and, as much as I'd like him to step up in the physicality department, I don't want to lose him! Every time I've tried to bring this up, he just changes the conversation. I don't think he's gay or anything, but I'm getting more and more frustrated—and confused. Still, I don't want to embarrass him by asking him what's wrong. Can you help me? —Dying for a Kiss
You've negated the most obvious possibility here—that he's gay—but the "or anything" has a pretty wide spectrum of options. He could be impotent. Or a transsexual. Or ashamed of his appendage or deformed in some way that doesn't show in clothes. Or, he's simply uninterested in you physically and is too much of a chicken ->-bleeped-<- to say so. If he can't say the words himself, ask him the above possibilities directly—it might be easier for him to say, "That's it," or nod or flash the thumbs-up sign.
