I hope this is the right forum to post this in. This was so good I need to share it.
My SO went to a conference at our church yesterday and one of the speakers was a top theologian of the vineyard churches, the one that we go to. She asked him privately about me and didn't like what he said. He told her it was genetic and something else she couldn't remember and that it was very difficult for me and that she should keep our relationship intact and show me respect by using the name I prefer. Wow, I love that brother. How awesome is that?