OK, I seem to have gone in the space of a few months from 'I wonder if I'm an androgyne', to 'I'm pretty certain, it fits so many things about me that seemed confusing', to 'I know, why don't I tell my boss'.
Anyway, finally did tell him after some office conversation focused on codes of behaviour when going out with 'the boys'. It was... pretty terrifying. I've been saying to myself that I need to gradually mention it to a few people I work a lot with, but this was the first time I've dared say anything beyond 'you know, I've never felt particularly feminine, nor particularly masculine for that matter'.
I ended up working up to it, and saying it on messenger (such a wuss, didn't think I could manage face to face), and beginning by asking him if he was aware of himself as being a man and if that coloured how he interacted with people, and eventually explaining that for me, being female just isn't part of my self and how I see the world, and gendered conversations are pretty mystifying for that reason, and finally just giving up and outright telling him.
Now a bit shaky and hands are all sweaty... he actually seemed pretty cool with it though, which is a relief. I don't actually want anything different though; I'm fine with my body and i don't really care about pronouns, I just wanted to be able to stop keeping quiet about my reactions and opinions when people have gender based conversations.
Anyone else managed it? Anyone else similarly scared and wussy, and tried to dance around things without using the word Androgyne?
Anyway, not sure if this was the right decision or not, am second guessing myself now, but... I've never been someone who could keep quiet about things, or someone who would just go along with things to please the group, and keeping quiet feels deceptive and somehow wounds my sense of integrity.
Bit of a rambly post there, just wanted to share with someone!
